"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Crazy Asian

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i don't understand how they get their averages.
right now, i'm a 9+, but my highest rating is a 9
i don't have any 10s so how could i possibly average to be above my highest rating?

also, move this to the AE section plz, for some reason, AE is blocked on my laptop.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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oakraiderz2

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The rating graph is jacked...ive wondered the samething for a while, too. I have a 9.4 but i have WAAAY more 5s and lower.
 

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It has something to do with the way people vote. It actually tracks HOW people vote and their patterns. It was funny because I showed a friend of mine hotornot for the first time the other day and the first girl we saw was like a 7 but he immediatelly said "3". I was like "What?! A 3 is some really ugly fat chick. This chic is HARDLY a 3". The thing is, some people don't actually know how to properly rate. If they don't see someone who is absolutelly attractive, like a 9 or 10, they immediatelly go for a really low number. So the HotOrNot app is "smart enough" to know how to average those people who are not rating right. I put some photos on HotOrNot and sometimes I get 10s but other times I've gotten 1's, 2's, and 3's. Now, to me, a 1 is someone who is disfigured and malformed so I KNOW I am NOT a 1. But people are stupid the way they rate. The will go ahead and rate everybody a 1 who they're not attracted to. And HotOrNot knows better than to legitimatelly count those toward your rating.
 

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I wouldnt pay too much attention to the rating system, on the VERY rare occasions that I do visit HotOrNot I click 9 for attractive girls and 1 for ugly or girls that I personally dont find attractive. Yeah, I know its pretty mean, but I really dont give a flying donkey dìck. Its just to get me to the next picture, Im not gonna sit there and do equations or figure out that I think she is like a 7. And Im guessing alot of other people do the same thing
 

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HotorNot is not very reliable. But if you get enough votes (about 500 or so) the score becomes a little more realistic.
my pic had a 9.9 with the first 50 votes, now its a 9.4 with 700 votes.
Yes I'm that handsome :p
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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bigjohnson

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They use a curve-fitting algorithm to 'help' people be more statistically correct. Essentially the developers believe they know how the attractiveness of their users should be distributed statistically and normalize to their assumption.
 

Wodan

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Read the graph on your score, add the numbers up, divide by the number of numbers. and thats your real rating and no your not hotter than 85% of people if your rating is 8.6
 

Darth

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In Motion said:
I wouldnt pay too much attention to the rating system, on the VERY rare occasions that I do visit HotOrNot I click 9 for attractive girls and 1 for ugly or girls that I personally dont find attractive.
lol. That's what I do.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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