"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Crazy Asian

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i don't understand how they get their averages.
right now, i'm a 9+, but my highest rating is a 9
i don't have any 10s so how could i possibly average to be above my highest rating?

also, move this to the AE section plz, for some reason, AE is blocked on my laptop.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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oakraiderz2

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The rating graph is jacked...ive wondered the samething for a while, too. I have a 9.4 but i have WAAAY more 5s and lower.
 

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It has something to do with the way people vote. It actually tracks HOW people vote and their patterns. It was funny because I showed a friend of mine hotornot for the first time the other day and the first girl we saw was like a 7 but he immediatelly said "3". I was like "What?! A 3 is some really ugly fat chick. This chic is HARDLY a 3". The thing is, some people don't actually know how to properly rate. If they don't see someone who is absolutelly attractive, like a 9 or 10, they immediatelly go for a really low number. So the HotOrNot app is "smart enough" to know how to average those people who are not rating right. I put some photos on HotOrNot and sometimes I get 10s but other times I've gotten 1's, 2's, and 3's. Now, to me, a 1 is someone who is disfigured and malformed so I KNOW I am NOT a 1. But people are stupid the way they rate. The will go ahead and rate everybody a 1 who they're not attracted to. And HotOrNot knows better than to legitimatelly count those toward your rating.
 

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I wouldnt pay too much attention to the rating system, on the VERY rare occasions that I do visit HotOrNot I click 9 for attractive girls and 1 for ugly or girls that I personally dont find attractive. Yeah, I know its pretty mean, but I really dont give a flying donkey dìck. Its just to get me to the next picture, Im not gonna sit there and do equations or figure out that I think she is like a 7. And Im guessing alot of other people do the same thing
 

r0cky

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HotorNot is not very reliable. But if you get enough votes (about 500 or so) the score becomes a little more realistic.
my pic had a 9.9 with the first 50 votes, now its a 9.4 with 700 votes.
Yes I'm that handsome :p
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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bigjohnson

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They use a curve-fitting algorithm to 'help' people be more statistically correct. Essentially the developers believe they know how the attractiveness of their users should be distributed statistically and normalize to their assumption.
 

Wodan

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Read the graph on your score, add the numbers up, divide by the number of numbers. and thats your real rating and no your not hotter than 85% of people if your rating is 8.6
 

Darth

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In Motion said:
I wouldnt pay too much attention to the rating system, on the VERY rare occasions that I do visit HotOrNot I click 9 for attractive girls and 1 for ugly or girls that I personally dont find attractive.
lol. That's what I do.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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