Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Crazy Asian

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i don't understand how they get their averages.
right now, i'm a 9+, but my highest rating is a 9
i don't have any 10s so how could i possibly average to be above my highest rating?

also, move this to the AE section plz, for some reason, AE is blocked on my laptop.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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oakraiderz2

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The rating graph is jacked...ive wondered the samething for a while, too. I have a 9.4 but i have WAAAY more 5s and lower.
 

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It has something to do with the way people vote. It actually tracks HOW people vote and their patterns. It was funny because I showed a friend of mine hotornot for the first time the other day and the first girl we saw was like a 7 but he immediatelly said "3". I was like "What?! A 3 is some really ugly fat chick. This chic is HARDLY a 3". The thing is, some people don't actually know how to properly rate. If they don't see someone who is absolutelly attractive, like a 9 or 10, they immediatelly go for a really low number. So the HotOrNot app is "smart enough" to know how to average those people who are not rating right. I put some photos on HotOrNot and sometimes I get 10s but other times I've gotten 1's, 2's, and 3's. Now, to me, a 1 is someone who is disfigured and malformed so I KNOW I am NOT a 1. But people are stupid the way they rate. The will go ahead and rate everybody a 1 who they're not attracted to. And HotOrNot knows better than to legitimatelly count those toward your rating.
 

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I wouldnt pay too much attention to the rating system, on the VERY rare occasions that I do visit HotOrNot I click 9 for attractive girls and 1 for ugly or girls that I personally dont find attractive. Yeah, I know its pretty mean, but I really dont give a flying donkey dìck. Its just to get me to the next picture, Im not gonna sit there and do equations or figure out that I think she is like a 7. And Im guessing alot of other people do the same thing
 

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HotorNot is not very reliable. But if you get enough votes (about 500 or so) the score becomes a little more realistic.
my pic had a 9.9 with the first 50 votes, now its a 9.4 with 700 votes.
Yes I'm that handsome :p
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bigjohnson

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They use a curve-fitting algorithm to 'help' people be more statistically correct. Essentially the developers believe they know how the attractiveness of their users should be distributed statistically and normalize to their assumption.
 

Wodan

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Read the graph on your score, add the numbers up, divide by the number of numbers. and thats your real rating and no your not hotter than 85% of people if your rating is 8.6
 

Darth

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In Motion said:
I wouldnt pay too much attention to the rating system, on the VERY rare occasions that I do visit HotOrNot I click 9 for attractive girls and 1 for ugly or girls that I personally dont find attractive.
lol. That's what I do.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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