"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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hot or not rating accurate?

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Raven80

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It's very accurate, because the people that do the voting need to have the appropriate judging credentials to be able to vote on that site. So at the end, what you do get are the industries top experts all gathered in one place ready to give their expert opinion. I've even heard some stories that some guys took the risk and put their pictures up and they were given scores of 5 and below, last I heard, those guys to this day, have not dated. So in my opinion, don't take that chance, because if you turn out ugly, then the whole internet will know.
 

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If you need people on internet to tell you if you are hot or not on some half ass BS site, then you have serious confidence issues that you need to work on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No, not accurate at all, for a variety of reasons.

I think Raven80 was joking...

And ignore people saying things like "who cares?" Looks matter, you should take pride in your appearance. You should improve it as much as possible, though you shouldn't let it hold you back if you are unattractive.
 

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its ridiculous how inaccurate it is. im gonna say this again. its ridiculous how inaccurate it is.
 

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Nope, not accurate. I believe it used to be, until they implemented the "Rate people if you want to be rated" concept.
And since most of the time I have better things to do I just hit "5" on everything without looking in order to finish the task in less time. I believe most people do the same. (but a better person would click 10 I suppose)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you need people on internet to tell you if you are hot or not on some half ass BS site, then you have serious confidence issues that you need to work on.
Nope, if you can even imagine him doing that you have serious confidence issues. Hotornot used to be an easy way to select your best picture in a collection. I actually learned about the site's existance from DeAngelo. But since they ruined it I have to do it the old-fascioned way now - thinking about it myself and asking female friends.
 

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The problem here is that Hot or Not demands us to judge a person with very little knowledge of this person. Take the link for example. Based on looks alone this guy needs help, but because his horse baring it creates the illusion of a caring sensitive man thus more points.

Same with women, the more flesh they present, the more point they seem to get. Seen some avg looking girls, but in bikinis are scoring 9s.

Once you understand how shallow the point system is, your understand it's limits.
 
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