"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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John9999

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Thought I’d start a thread on this.

I have been on numerous hookup sites with no success before.

I landed on a site 3 weeks ago called kasidie.com.
It’s big with swinger couples, but there are single women as well.

Got 2 chics in 2 weeks, nailed them both at first meeting. No jumping thru hoops, no 3 date bull****, and nobody gets all emotional. I’m loving it. It does take some game, but not the crazy “catch me if you can” bull**** on sites like match or getting gals phone number in real world.

Anyone having actual success on hookup sites. If so which ones. I think the success here vs say tinder is that it costs money to belong so the women are more serious about meeting.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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On regular dating apps you'll find people who are on there for a billion different reasons, makes it harder to navigate if all you wanna do is hook up. On hookup sites there's no doubt what exactly everyone is looking for, just that alone removes a lot of the BS. Also the fact that it costs money does keep away less serious people.

What hookup sites are not good for is actual dating, nobody are there to find the love of their life. So as long as you have zero interests beyond simply hooking up, then it's perfect.
 

John9999

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Oh hell,,, I’m done with relationships at 53 years old. If one happens, great. But I’m not vet the female drama and all that goes with a relationship. Was married for 17 years and was engaged post divorce. Done with it.
 

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I used to hookup from craigslist despite the risks. I could see sites working better
 
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