I went NC on a girl I was hooking up with a few months ago and want to hook up with her again but I just have no idea what to say. Reason for NC was because she stopped replying to me without giving me a reason. NC lasted a month and a half before she reached out but I replied a few days later and ignored her after she tried having a regular convo with me without any mention of wanting to start something up again. We havent talked since and I need some ideas on what I could say or shouldn't say?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Hooking up after NC?
- Thread starter Gan
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
...after a month and a half of riding the c0ck carousel. Get her tested first. You don't know where she's been.
Thatfeel21
Senior Don Juan
Make small talk over a course of 5-10days. See where her head is at. If your gut suggests she aint about "it" then stop wasting your time.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.