I went NC on a girl I was hooking up with a few months ago and want to hook up with her again but I just have no idea what to say. Reason for NC was because she stopped replying to me without giving me a reason. NC lasted a month and a half before she reached out but I replied a few days later and ignored her after she tried having a regular convo with me without any mention of wanting to start something up again. We havent talked since and I need some ideas on what I could say or shouldn't say?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Hooking up after NC?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
...after a month and a half of riding the c0ck carousel. Get her tested first. You don't know where she's been.
Thatfeel21
Senior Don Juan
Make small talk over a course of 5-10days. See where her head is at. If your gut suggests she aint about "it" then stop wasting your time.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.