"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Honesty is overrated

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logicallefty said:
lol A friend of mine who is an attorney always says "It's only dishonest when you give false information. Giving them only part of the information, so long as what you do give them is true, is still considered honesty".

Works pretty well for him in the courtroom. I see no problem in applying it to women also.
Another rep. People don't understand how beneficial it is to just keep their mouth shut.

I see guys saying that's what hors do. Well, sure it is. But don't we teach guys to spin plates too?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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backbreaker said:
fvck honesty
You know what's REALLY overrated? YOUR POSTING.

You've worn out your welcome. I really wish the mods saw it the same way.
 

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The episode where George decided to do the opposite of his instincts is a great one. He sees an attractive woman, then marches up to her to say 'Hi, I'm George. I'm 37, unemployed, and live with my mother.' And then the woman is all over him.

I think there's some wisdom in that scene, relating to the attractiveness of not being outcome-dependent, as well as the idea that many natural instincts are self-limiting beliefs.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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George's belief is if every instinct in his life has been wrong up to that point, the opposite must be right.

Classic episode.
 

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Dear BSquared,
"i would ask that you refrain from calling my wife a hor please in the future".....A response worthy of a Lord, I am impressed!....Without a Doubt your lovely English Rose is having a positive influence on you Back Breaker...good for her!
 
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