I was walking through an underpass with my girlfriend in arm and the homeless man who sleeps there said, ' hey that's a nice girlfriend, treat her right, she's the best you're ever going to do. ever ever ever' then he continued to say the word ever repeatedly as I walked away. We both laughed but it didn't feel right to me. He was probably right but even so. Was it some kind of insult?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
homeless man heckled me
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
RedScorpion
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He’s a homeless person. As well as someone you don’t know (emphasis on this part). Disregard random people’s idle comments, as they have no possibility of understanding you. Just by virtue of them not knowing you. A man is not made purely by appearances either.
Who cares what this random guy thinks?
Who cares what this random guy thinks?
R.U.G.
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Prob. just looking back on his own boulevard of broken dreams and life. I would had just wished him well and not had given it a second thought. After all, look at you, then look at him. Who's in a better position in life?
Atom Smasher
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That was me under the bridge. I was just goofin' on ya, bro.
logicallefty
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I’ll be extremely polite and respectful to a homeless person on first meeting if they are to me. But I’m not gonna let them throw idle jabs like this at me. At that point I would have told the guy I’m on my way to steakhouse xyz so he should be sure to dig there in the dumpster tomorrow for my bone and fat scraps.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Mike32ct
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Plenty of homeless people have mental illness and/or drug issues, so I wouldn’t give what they say a second thought.
Just keep walking.
Just keep walking.
zekko
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Agree with this.
You definitely can't take what the guy was saying to heart. I'm sure he was wallowing in his own misery and was trying to project it on to you.
The guy definitely sounds unstable.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
He's projecting his own losery onto you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
