"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What may seem like a godsend is a curse in disguise.

So this girl Lindsey and I went to the same school freshman year. She got kicked out for doing sexual stuff, and we never spoke. I thought she was FINE tho.

Last month, I found her on the internet with her lil website thing. We talked, she didn't live too far, and I happened to be in the area, so I stopped by. We talked for two hours, and we got intimately close on her couch, but I didnt make a move, I was waiting for her to.. when I walked out to my car, she kissed me, and we made out for a couple minutes. It was the best kiss I ever had! :)

I asked her to prom friday, she said yes. :)

Saturday, my best friend of 12 years Jack and his girlfriend Cara were having relationship problems. The cause: Cara's younger sister is kinda weird, and was takin her sister to see some stupid ass drug dealer often in a town a couple miles north.

Jack wanted me to get with the sister (shes kinda cute) to keep both of them out of trouble, and I did this.

Now, I am attached to this girl, who needs my help, and is a very delightful but misguided girl. Jack suddenly had a change of heart, and insists I should ditch Lindsey and take the sister to prom instead! She's not half the woman Lindsey is, and not a quarter as social. The problem is, she's my girlfriend, and she's obsessed with me. OBSESSED.

IONNO WHAT TO DO. She's obsessed with me, should I take her out of respect? Or continue with Lindsey, who is a very good match for me?

Help me!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Look it all depends on who your into the most cause youll always regreat not going with the one u want .

I had the same problem and instead of going with this girl i really wanted i went with this alright chick (I LOWERED MY HIGH STANDARDS AND THAT NEVER WORKS FOR ME)she wasnt to bad still qute but i wanst into her and over the summer just grew disgusted. now i got one quarter and prom left and im go make the right choice.

so which ever makes you fell like you could last with them choose
 
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I know that you care but go with Lindsey unless your friend can give you some cash for your efforts:D. You've got to start doing things in your own interest. If your friend doesn't like that then hes not worth the effort.
 
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You have to be the judge here. My suggestion is that you try and talk to Jack about it and tell him your perspective on the situation.
 
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What the hell is this? This isn't even a story. This is just bad. This is the adventure of your life!? Dating the girl your friend tells you to date and then asking us what's the right thing to do?

Tool.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
What the hell is this? This isn't even a story. This is just bad. This is the adventure of your life!? Dating the girl your friend tells you to date and then asking us what's the right thing to do?

Tool.
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NOw that I come to think about it more clearly, LikRetsam, you make a good point.
 
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I'm on it.

I mean, just do what YOU want to dude. Don't do what your friend wants you to do. Be a leader not a follower.
 
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Go with lindsey, if the sister is younger, you can go to her prom later :p. Dont listen to your friend, hes just using you.
 
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You can be both the good samaritan and play the game to your benefit.


One scenario - Ditch lindsay and bring the young girl. Lindsay gets jealous as hell and wants your c0ck more than ever. The young girl will be happy as hell and won't go crazy after finding out that you brought some other girl to prom. You've saved one troubled teen and macked the other.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by California Love
One scenario - Ditch lindsay and bring the young girl. Lindsay gets jealous as hell and wants your c0ck more than ever.
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Or Lindsay finds out your an excuzer for taking a girl to prom just because your friend told you to and Lindsay falls in love with your friend whos more alpha than you. I say take them both to prom:D or just Lindsay. Don't be your friends doormat, respect yourself.

By the way I wouldn't consider going with the sister because why waste prom night with a girl you don't want just to tease another girl?

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