"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
$hit tests = enigmas
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Lol, this is the same girl who everyone thought was a bytch. Why the hell would I want to fall for a girl everyone thinks is a bytch? You guys tried to tell me too. Geez, now that it's over and I'm getting some perspective I realize how much work I have to do on my own self image, that I would allow myself to get on this merry-go-round with a girl who was so abrasive in the first place. I just fell for her adoration of me. I know she cared about me, but she wasn't good FOR ME.jophil28 said:
I guess you get experience by getting experience.
I did, and thanks. You are right-- I attracted a girl who probably had some issues, as I had some issues. I was working on getting my head together, raising my standards for myself, learning to treat myself well, and that's when she disappeared. I'm going to keep working on my self image and standards, and I know that like you say, I will attract someone who mirrors that back TO me.Charm said:
I'm glad I started posting here again, it's a sign that I'm ready to learn from the lesson she taught me, and for the first time in a few months I'm actually looking forward to turning my life around, and drawing positive influences into my life. Right-on.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.