"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
hints your in the friend zone?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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talks to you about other guys she likes, guys she's messed around with, etc.
alright thanks for those. there is this girl ive been talking to for like a year, but it doesnt seem like im in the the friends zone yet, but for the amount of time we've been talking you'd think we would be. so anybody else have any other hints?Mechwarrior13 said:"i see you as a friend/brother"
talks to you about other guys she likes, guys she's messed around with, etc.
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yea i do, i feel like a retard for not already making a move, but thats what tomorrow is for:rock:Mechwarrior13 said:you can talk for a while and not land in the friendzone, it all depends on how you act. do you flirt with her and stuff?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Well, if she doesn't directly tell you, but when you try she seems to not want to pursue more then friends, you get rid of her because she's most likely using you.HandyAndy said:what about when she doesnt directly tell you she wants to be friends?
For example don't go talk about life problems or about her old bf's, never let her take control over you, and most importantly don't pursue her, let her pursue you
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.