Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Yeah exactly the guy wearing the dildo was a star in a very famous sitcom. Besides he looked way better than the other guy other than being shorter (and the dildo), he had almost perfect body language and was just smooth. The other guy looked like an insecure bafoon. This proved nothing but that rich, famous and beign a smooth actor beats a typical guy.Dongfu said:Yeah, they dont show the part where he says Im bud from married with children. But funny as hell. Thanks.
I highly doubt very many girls in LA don't recognize him whether they mention it or not. Besides he's still not a bad looking guy other than being short. He was an actor for a long time since he was a child. He has very good presentation. Don't think for a minute that all his fame and fortune from such an early age wouldn't make him a natural.The Sperminator said:No if you go to Neil's myspace he even said that every time someone recognized Bud they wouldn't count it.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Mad Manic said:Simple, the shorter more goofy guy got in because he was less threatening, almost analogous to a gay guy approaching. He may got a number or whatever, but I HIGHLY doubt he'd be sexing any of the girls. At least if the tall guy does get some success, he's taken more seriously and as a sexual prospect rather than a 'goofy small friendly guy I met'.
MM
Yes I know that now after you said it (I wasn't aware he was famous etc) but as a general rule it's not unknown that the goofy unthreatening guy gets to talk to the girl whereas the more threatening guy doesn't. But it's usually in a platonic way. When the bigger guy knows he's in, he's usually IN because he's seen in a more sexual way. Saying that, the key is to get in often and be seen in a sexual light which usually isn't such a huge task if you're lucky in the gene pool. Then comes game and all that ... yawn.ketostix said:MM, they (Neil Strauss &Co., aka Style) didn't use a guy from a very famous TV sitcom that's been syndicated in reruns for several years for nothing. You could find plenty of other short, goofy nonthreatening guys. Style is a charlatan worse than Mystery.
Yep for those who don't know they are both washout kid actors from the 90's. The little guy was on "Married with Children" playing Bud Bundy, the taller guy was Parker Lewis in the show "Parker Lewis can't lose".Vladimir Horowitz said:He's a...celebrity.
"Fame" is just a different way to spell "instant poon".
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DJDamage said:Yep for those who don't know they are both washout kid actors from the 90's. The little guy was on "Married with Children" playing Bud Bundy, the taller guy was Parker Lewis in the show "Parker Lewis can't lose".
Vladimir Horowitz said:He's a...celebrity.
"Fame" is just a different way to spell "instant poon".