She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah exactly the guy wearing the dildo was a star in a very famous sitcom. Besides he looked way better than the other guy other than being shorter (and the dildo), he had almost perfect body language and was just smooth. The other guy looked like an insecure bafoon. This proved nothing but that rich, famous and beign a smooth actor beats a typical guy.Dongfu said:Yeah, they dont show the part where he says Im bud from married with children. But funny as hell. Thanks.
I highly doubt very many girls in LA don't recognize him whether they mention it or not. Besides he's still not a bad looking guy other than being short. He was an actor for a long time since he was a child. He has very good presentation. Don't think for a minute that all his fame and fortune from such an early age wouldn't make him a natural.The Sperminator said:No if you go to Neil's myspace he even said that every time someone recognized Bud they wouldn't count it.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Mad Manic said:Simple, the shorter more goofy guy got in because he was less threatening, almost analogous to a gay guy approaching. He may got a number or whatever, but I HIGHLY doubt he'd be sexing any of the girls. At least if the tall guy does get some success, he's taken more seriously and as a sexual prospect rather than a 'goofy small friendly guy I met'.
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Yes I know that now after you said it (I wasn't aware he was famous etc) but as a general rule it's not unknown that the goofy unthreatening guy gets to talk to the girl whereas the more threatening guy doesn't. But it's usually in a platonic way. When the bigger guy knows he's in, he's usually IN because he's seen in a more sexual way. Saying that, the key is to get in often and be seen in a sexual light which usually isn't such a huge task if you're lucky in the gene pool. Then comes game and all that ... yawn.ketostix said:MM, they (Neil Strauss &Co., aka Style) didn't use a guy from a very famous TV sitcom that's been syndicated in reruns for several years for nothing. You could find plenty of other short, goofy nonthreatening guys. Style is a charlatan worse than Mystery.
Yep for those who don't know they are both washout kid actors from the 90's. The little guy was on "Married with Children" playing Bud Bundy, the taller guy was Parker Lewis in the show "Parker Lewis can't lose".Vladimir Horowitz said:He's a...celebrity.
"Fame" is just a different way to spell "instant poon".
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
DJDamage said:Yep for those who don't know they are both washout kid actors from the 90's. The little guy was on "Married with Children" playing Bud Bundy, the taller guy was Parker Lewis in the show "Parker Lewis can't lose".
Vladimir Horowitz said:He's a...celebrity.
"Fame" is just a different way to spell "instant poon".