"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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High IL replies but very slow response

PoZest

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I sort of nexted this girl I was texting, as she'd often take hours to reply back, sometimes not until the next day.
I find it hard to get a real bit of flirting to flow if the reply is sometimes hours, and sometimes instant.
I decided a week ago to next this one as I saw that she was online on the app but not reading my message, which she replied to the day after, so I haven't texted since.
But looking over the messages, the responses were quite high IL, laughing and asking Qs etc, and if there was no 24 hour wait in between the replies sometimes, I'd see no problems.
Should I be put off by this, or will I continue to initiate conversation, knowing that sometimes I won't get a reply for a while?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Fireballs

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Put her on the back burner for now and pursue other girls .. if she reaches out, try and set-up a date. If she gives any other answer than a definite 'yes' , put her at the back of the line again .. repeat.
 

marmel75

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Have you met her yet? Stop playing tiddlywinks with messages and get her out on a date.
 

The Duke

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You never know whats going on with these girls. Busy with life, entertaining other dudes, still not over the last guy they were with, put off by the dating app, etc. Go for the number and make a phone call and set up a date. Thats all you can do.
 
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