"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hide or not hide that you are picking her up?

Which strategy do you use?

  • Always direct approach.

    Votes: 1 6.7%

  • Always indirect approach.

    Votes: 1 6.7%

  • Half & half.

    Votes: 8 53.3%

  • Most of them direct, a little indirect.

    Votes: 2 13.3%

  • Most of them indirect, a little direct.

    Votes: 3 20.0%
  • Total voters
    15
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Starriol

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I mean... there are several schools of thought with this.

Some guys say "try to make it look like you are just being a friendly chatty stranger".

Other says "be a man, do it directly and don't pretend you are interested in her purse color".

I mean... what are the pros and cons you think?

IMO, being indirect has the advantadge of defusing a lot of ***** shields because a girl doesn't get all defensive.

By the time she realizes you are picking her up, she's already into you (or she should be if you did your game allright).

On the other hand, I think it shows lots of balls to just go for it and say straight, this is the most minimalistic approach, of course "hey girl, I'm busy right now, but would love to chat with you, what's your #??".

I had success with both approaches. I don't think one is better, they are just different, some are better sometimes, other, some other times.

What is YOUR opinion?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dark Haired Alpha

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Come on, she is going to know what you're doing anyways. By hiding it, you will just loose her respect.
 
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Bonhomme

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Unask the question.

It's not about directness or indirectness, but about finesse. You could be making out within minutes of meeting or a subtle as can be.

Some of the best pickups are when you both know what's going on, but it's entirely unspoken. Whatever the flow of things dictates ~
 
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Brian20o2

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The best thing is to be direct but inderect, meaning you show your intensions in your actions but you dont go up and say "hey wanna Fu**" all while being playfull and funloving.
 
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reyalp

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it's definitely a game of subtleties.

i won't come right out and state my intentions....they know what they are.

however, if a woman asks me why i want to see her/why i'm hanging out with her, i usually tell her i have nothing but the worst intentions. they think i'm joking, too :D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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How to tell definitively whether a woman is married or avalable.....




























Can her husband see you sarging his wife? :p
 
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