You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bah.. You know them these days. Inspired by the bible and just spit it back out. You won't get what you're looking for I'm afraid.Originally posted by tactic
Ok Lik, I believe you're accusing me of hating AFC. I was, afriad to 'fess up, a horrible AFC myself. I'm not hating, I just wanted to see what their answers were going to be. And with the answers, we help. Get it?
indeed, because nobody wants to admit that they are AFCOriginally posted by LikRetsam
Bah.. You know them these days. Inspired by the bible and just spit it back out. You won't get what you're looking for I'm afraid.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Indeed it does. But can you figure out the 5 other meanings?Originally posted by CaptainMorgan
hey Lik, i dont know if this is on purpose or not but ur name spelled backwards is masterkil (you probably new that).....this brings me back to the days when i use to go by the name etabretsam on another website.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The first step to self improvement is acknowledging our problems.Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
Average Frustrated Chump... no one will ever label themselves that, except in retrospect.
LOL these days, you talk as if been registered here since the depression, dang I have only been here short of a year, you you shorter than that. Sorry but that phrase reminded me of one of the old dudes that sits in front of the barber shop.Originally posted by LikRetsam
Bah.. You know them these days. Inspired by the bible and just spit it back out. You won't get what you're looking for I'm afraid.