"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Heres my current situation

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Ok so you guys remember me asking if this girl was attracted to me because she looked and smiled at me, here is a follow up report on recent events. I asked one of my fairly popular friends if he knew who she was, and infact he did. And infact he started talking to her online about me, and she was attracted to me. So we talked the next time we saw each other, that is until I found out she had a boyfriend, so I backed off, and explored other options. So we didn't really talk a whole lot, just Hi when I saw her. Then a few days later, she told me her and her boyfriend broke up. So now I was ready to move in. We talked after class, and she was telling me how bad her bf was to her, and when I had to go in a different direction, she gave me a hug. So then, the next day, I was playing football with some of my friends, and we walked into the middle school football game. She was there, but I didn't know, and so when I was leaving, she called me over, gave me a BIG hug, and rubbed my back. So talked for a little while, and she wanted me to stay there, but I had to go, I was soo pissed I had to go. then the next day, she barely talked to me, instead she talked to some other guy, maybe she's trying to make me jealous? What do you guys think I should do next?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Mate your as in as it gets, it sounds like she goes out of her way to talk to you. All you have to do is ask her out now.
Wait too long and you'll be in the friend zone before you can say 'sh!t I'm a f*ckwit, I should've asked before!'
 

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Ok, I'll talk to her a few more times, then I guess i'll pop the question.
 

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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