"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Here's a scenario......

xenopus

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Previously I posted this on another thread...it's something for you guys to ponder over....

My ex-girlfriend has this good guy friend who gives her missed calls virtually everyday. Missed calls as in just one or two rings and that's it. No talking at all (at least I never heard them talking)

Naturally, I asked her about this and she tells me they're only good friends, and nothing else. It did make me irritated on numerous occasions and ask her questions, because these missed calls happen quite often when I'm with her.

So, she went back to Spain for holidays (she's Spanish) and I asked her if she met up with this good guy friend of hers. They live in the same town. She told me no . I found this really strange - for a guy friend to be giving her missed calls everyday and not meeting up for a round of coffee or something. Perhaps they did; maybe she didn't tell me this because she didn't want me to get worried or paranoid- god knows.

I did have suspicions that she may well be cheating on me. But I tried to look on the positive side- that she was phoning me almost everyday(long distance !) , telling me that she loved me, wants to come and live with me, communicating online almost everyday etc.

But you just never know women, ....she could well be having someone on the side.


What do you guys make of this?


Xenopus
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by xenopus
because these missed calls happen quite often when I'm with her.
The question of the hour is...does she "miss" these calls when you're not around? :eek:

Two possibilities:

1) This guy is chumping all over her and she's completely friend-zoned him, but since he calls every day she figures she can still use him as a friend.

2) You're being had.

I can't say.
 

am4591

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If she's your ex-girlfriend, why are you still seeing her anyway?
 

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No, i'm not seeing her anymore. Totally cut off contact.
 
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