"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Okay, here it is, short and sweet.

I'm in year 12 and I really like this girl in a few of my classes, except shes one of the more 'popular' people and I'm the typical 'nice guy' who never gets the girl in the end, unless its a C-list Hugh Grant movie. I'm on the larger side which probably doesn't help... :D . I do work out, for muscle development though, not weight loss. I'm pretty powerhouse on the muscle side, but it hasn't really helped my size :p .

I've got her msn and stuff, I talk to her a little on there, but in person I can't, let alone asking for a # and maybe even going somewhere.

Any tips?
thanks!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Read the DJ bible and David DeAngelo. When you're done with that, then you can start askin questions.

But just so you don't get hard feelings, i'll give you some advice. First, get confident. Second, don't buy into this "Nice Guy" crap. Like you said, nice guys get the girl in the end, but you want a girl now. And if you want the girl now, you can't be a wuss. But just because i said that, doesn't mean you have to turn into a d!ck. Just don't be a wuss. And read what i told you to read!
 
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Are they books, or are they things on this forum?
Sorry...hahaha.
 
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Fck her, focus on getting YOU to be the best you you can be (thats alot of you's).
 
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WesCottII said:
Fck her, focus on getting YOU to be the best you you can be (thats alot of you's).
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Yeah I've tried adopting that a few times, hasn't worked particularly well ;) .

Thanks for the suggestions, any more?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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work on confidence and sense of humor. they definitely matter more than bein pudgy or whatver. as hard as it is for guys to comprehend, i've learned that chicks are waaaay less shallow than us. while the first thing that both sexes look at IS appearance, its way easier for an ugly guy to get a hot girl than a ugly girl to get an attractive guy. it is all about attraction like david deangelo, i think, says. you can create that by being funny and confident, sometimes overly so.
 
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you're lucky you get to start so young.

sounds like you have your physical appearence down, so you've got to work on that confidence!

If you think of doing something, then be like "I shouldn't do that" or "I wouldn't know what to do" or whatever excuse you may have.. thats not nice, I might get in trouble...

Screw it and do it :p

Here are some basic things to use...

C+F - very effective and probably the most used technique.. work your humor
negs - don't think you're going to hurt someone's feelings or anything.. just neg hit girls jokingly, and it'll work well
DHV - meaning you are The Man, and she is some woman. (you > her)

it may be a little hard at first.. but work on your confidence by talking to more girls and acting like you're the prize to be won, NOT flattering or making them seem like you're really interested.

DONT FOCUS ON ONLY ONE GIRL
she'll come once you get them all.


http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
here's the bible if you haven't found it, I suggest reading Steps 1 and 2 first then moving on if you have alot of time to read.

Self confidence is key!
now go get em ;)
 
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Reframing yourself as the prize works like a goddamn CHARM. You will be surprised.
 
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