Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
lolOriginally posted by Jvesti
He looks like the high school marching band tuba player trying to act like Marlon Brando.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That is certainly the truth! Those guys always crack me up.Originally posted by zentraveller
Take your average AMERICAN kid with a hip hop persona, dressed in baggy jeans and athletic apparel, and trying to act "as hard" as possible, and you'll have quite a few EUROPEANS laughing their asses off at his chimp-like behavior.
Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
Funny all the criticism this video gets. One thing I notice is the culture gap between north america and europe. Ask someone in USA and someone in Europe about his looks and you'll get very different responses.
Second thing. I just love all these people who say things like "he has manboobs", "he looks like a dork", "me and my friends would eat him alive if he walked in a room like that", etc.
You're all very confident hiding behind a computer monitor and keyboard. You put this man down to feel better about yourselves. Like you are better people for sitting on your a$$es and not doing a thing. You're justifying doing nothing by putting another man down for trying something. And as for comments about him being "fat/chubby" (weight training wannabe) and that you'd beat him up, I bet most of you would take a sh1t in your pants if you were actually confronted in person instead of hiding behind a computer and making such arrogant comments.
Yes, his actions are obviously exaggerated. I'm sure he was a little uncomfortable sitting like that, but he's just getting points across like don't sit as if you're tense and got a pole up your a$$. Walk with a confident up-right posture, etc. Don't take everything so damn literally.
Finally, get your heads out of your a$$es. Kill this notion that you are better than him because you like to see yourselves type.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You're kidding right?Originally posted by WomansDream
This video is proof that the alpha male behavior will make you look like a pig and therefore never get chicks... kindness and sensitivity to feelings is where it's at
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.