Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
lolOriginally posted by Jvesti
He looks like the high school marching band tuba player trying to act like Marlon Brando.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That is certainly the truth! Those guys always crack me up.Originally posted by zentraveller
Take your average AMERICAN kid with a hip hop persona, dressed in baggy jeans and athletic apparel, and trying to act "as hard" as possible, and you'll have quite a few EUROPEANS laughing their asses off at his chimp-like behavior.
Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
Funny all the criticism this video gets. One thing I notice is the culture gap between north america and europe. Ask someone in USA and someone in Europe about his looks and you'll get very different responses.
Second thing. I just love all these people who say things like "he has manboobs", "he looks like a dork", "me and my friends would eat him alive if he walked in a room like that", etc.
You're all very confident hiding behind a computer monitor and keyboard. You put this man down to feel better about yourselves. Like you are better people for sitting on your a$$es and not doing a thing. You're justifying doing nothing by putting another man down for trying something. And as for comments about him being "fat/chubby" (weight training wannabe) and that you'd beat him up, I bet most of you would take a sh1t in your pants if you were actually confronted in person instead of hiding behind a computer and making such arrogant comments.
Yes, his actions are obviously exaggerated. I'm sure he was a little uncomfortable sitting like that, but he's just getting points across like don't sit as if you're tense and got a pole up your a$$. Walk with a confident up-right posture, etc. Don't take everything so damn literally.
Finally, get your heads out of your a$$es. Kill this notion that you are better than him because you like to see yourselves type.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You're kidding right?Originally posted by WomansDream
This video is proof that the alpha male behavior will make you look like a pig and therefore never get chicks... kindness and sensitivity to feelings is where it's at
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.