"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Her LOI is High, Yours is Low
- Thread starter Triple X
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I did end up in a fvckbuddy relationship-thingy with a girl like that, but it turned out messy, since she was having feelings for me.
so, all "just **** her" replies can go elsewhere IMO.
secondly, since you're writing about this here, I assume you care about her, but ain't interested in her that way, correct?
Hence, all "next her" replies can take a leak.
My suggestion is to MAKE SURE that you end up in the friend zone. Who know's, she might have some nice friends......
//Deus
Edit: just read your reply you wrote whilst I was writing.. my suggestion still stands though, her friends will see you as "safe" if she deems you a friend..
Triple X
Senior Don Juan
It all depends on what you think of her. Is she worth a f***? I mean the girl I'm talking about I would definitely sleep with, but at the same time she's not one you'd bring home to mom & dad or show off to your mates. Know what I'm saying?
So basically... if the girl is f***able, I would take the opportunity and get your nuts in. At the end of the day, any hole is indeed a goal.
Edit: Dammit Deus, you beat me lol. Well you might be right with the 'all just f*** her replies can go away' comment, I dunno. That's what I would do (f*** her) anyway.
Just turn AFC on her arse =) that'll make her run away screaming as they usually do..
@Tripple X: *shrugs* I know your reasoning...
but some chicks just aren't worth the trouble....BTW shez, what do you mean by "sarge on"?? I've seen it a dozen times, but I haven't thought about it before...
//Deus
but no worries, I'm getting more and more sargeholic.....
Just wish the girls over here wasn't so goddarn hard....
"dating" is a vague thing here... *shrugs*
and not many of the "rules" laid down on this site works either. I think I've just been lucky when it comes to screwing. No real LTRs though....
Though, I have confirmed that "smirting" works. and the kino.... though both of those are natural to me.. what can I say, I like smoking, and I like touching girls.. *shrugs and tries to look innocent..*
//Deus
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well, if she's a high quality woman then you might want to consider telling her that you'd like her to surprise you a bit to spice things up. If she can handle open discussions like that...just tell her that in the past you've gotten bored with women because they don't keep you guessing. If she's smart she will catch the hint and try to keep you interested. This is a mistake a lot of women make with men. They just don't know how to stimulate him in a way that keeps him wanting her. Women are good at picking up on little hints if you are able to drop them in a way that doesn't hurt her feelings.