"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Her LOI is High, Yours is Low
- Thread starter Triple X
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I did end up in a fvckbuddy relationship-thingy with a girl like that, but it turned out messy, since she was having feelings for me.
so, all "just **** her" replies can go elsewhere IMO.
secondly, since you're writing about this here, I assume you care about her, but ain't interested in her that way, correct?
Hence, all "next her" replies can take a leak.
My suggestion is to MAKE SURE that you end up in the friend zone. Who know's, she might have some nice friends......
//Deus
Edit: just read your reply you wrote whilst I was writing.. my suggestion still stands though, her friends will see you as "safe" if she deems you a friend..
Triple X
Senior Don Juan
It all depends on what you think of her. Is she worth a f***? I mean the girl I'm talking about I would definitely sleep with, but at the same time she's not one you'd bring home to mom & dad or show off to your mates. Know what I'm saying?
So basically... if the girl is f***able, I would take the opportunity and get your nuts in. At the end of the day, any hole is indeed a goal.
Edit: Dammit Deus, you beat me lol. Well you might be right with the 'all just f*** her replies can go away' comment, I dunno. That's what I would do (f*** her) anyway.
Just turn AFC on her arse =) that'll make her run away screaming as they usually do..
@Tripple X: *shrugs* I know your reasoning...
but some chicks just aren't worth the trouble....BTW shez, what do you mean by "sarge on"?? I've seen it a dozen times, but I haven't thought about it before...
//Deus
but no worries, I'm getting more and more sargeholic.....
Just wish the girls over here wasn't so goddarn hard....
"dating" is a vague thing here... *shrugs*
and not many of the "rules" laid down on this site works either. I think I've just been lucky when it comes to screwing. No real LTRs though....
Though, I have confirmed that "smirting" works. and the kino.... though both of those are natural to me.. what can I say, I like smoking, and I like touching girls.. *shrugs and tries to look innocent..*
//Deus
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well, if she's a high quality woman then you might want to consider telling her that you'd like her to surprise you a bit to spice things up. If she can handle open discussions like that...just tell her that in the past you've gotten bored with women because they don't keep you guessing. If she's smart she will catch the hint and try to keep you interested. This is a mistake a lot of women make with men. They just don't know how to stimulate him in a way that keeps him wanting her. Women are good at picking up on little hints if you are able to drop them in a way that doesn't hurt her feelings.