"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Her LOI is High, Yours is Low
- Thread starter Triple X
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I did end up in a fvckbuddy relationship-thingy with a girl like that, but it turned out messy, since she was having feelings for me.
so, all "just **** her" replies can go elsewhere IMO.
secondly, since you're writing about this here, I assume you care about her, but ain't interested in her that way, correct?
Hence, all "next her" replies can take a leak.
My suggestion is to MAKE SURE that you end up in the friend zone. Who know's, she might have some nice friends......
//Deus
Edit: just read your reply you wrote whilst I was writing.. my suggestion still stands though, her friends will see you as "safe" if she deems you a friend..
Triple X
Senior Don Juan
It all depends on what you think of her. Is she worth a f***? I mean the girl I'm talking about I would definitely sleep with, but at the same time she's not one you'd bring home to mom & dad or show off to your mates. Know what I'm saying?
So basically... if the girl is f***able, I would take the opportunity and get your nuts in. At the end of the day, any hole is indeed a goal.
Edit: Dammit Deus, you beat me lol. Well you might be right with the 'all just f*** her replies can go away' comment, I dunno. That's what I would do (f*** her) anyway.
Just turn AFC on her arse =) that'll make her run away screaming as they usually do..
@Tripple X: *shrugs* I know your reasoning...
but some chicks just aren't worth the trouble....BTW shez, what do you mean by "sarge on"?? I've seen it a dozen times, but I haven't thought about it before...
//Deus
but no worries, I'm getting more and more sargeholic.....
Just wish the girls over here wasn't so goddarn hard....
"dating" is a vague thing here... *shrugs*
and not many of the "rules" laid down on this site works either. I think I've just been lucky when it comes to screwing. No real LTRs though....
Though, I have confirmed that "smirting" works. and the kino.... though both of those are natural to me.. what can I say, I like smoking, and I like touching girls.. *shrugs and tries to look innocent..*
//Deus
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Well, if she's a high quality woman then you might want to consider telling her that you'd like her to surprise you a bit to spice things up. If she can handle open discussions like that...just tell her that in the past you've gotten bored with women because they don't keep you guessing. If she's smart she will catch the hint and try to keep you interested. This is a mistake a lot of women make with men. They just don't know how to stimulate him in a way that keeps him wanting her. Women are good at picking up on little hints if you are able to drop them in a way that doesn't hurt her feelings.