"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Her Grandma is dying...
- Thread starter mtlwlu
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
KontrollerX
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You don't want to begin a relationship close to a trauma like this or the girl may subconsciously begin to associate you with that horrible time in her life, resent you for it and then poof there goes your relationship and you are sh!t out of luck.
Also going forward with this drags you into the vortex of caretaker where no young guy should willingly put himself unless of course its part of his profession such as say a doctor, a priest/minister, clinical psychologist, hospice worker, etc.
kingy
Senior Don Juan
are you exclusive?
have u had sex?
what is all this Nexting business...... its a similar attitude you had before kontroller, not letting other people drag you down and looking for the bad in them and reasons to move on.
Instead look for the good and be bringing her up. Everything is possible and this situation sounds like it can easily be solved if he actually likes the the girl.
p.s. this is the stuff that fills you up and gets you consistant.
KontrollerX
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Its not "looking for the bad" in someone dude.
The "bad" is the current situation not the girl and the current and "bad" situation is right in front of his face, not something he "needs to look for" and he needs to move on to a better candidate whose not going through a traumatic event at the moment.
Its the smart and intelligent thing to do.
He's fortunate because its just the beginning of the getting to know you phase and he's presumably not that emotionally invested in the girl at all now which is the perfect time for exiting this undesireable scenario.
And besides I wasn't even advocating a total next but rather just for this guy to forget about her as in place her on the backburner and go deal with other plates.
When this chick feels good again she can then contact him indicating she is ready to begin the dating game once more.
Honestly I seriously wonder if you new guys ever think over a situation deeply before you post or if your mindset is just that AFC where you think putting yourself in unwinnable scenarios is a good idea?
kingy
Senior Don Juan
it absoultely is looking for the bad, you are focusing on it.
4,000 posts? I think you need to get out in field more and perhaps live your life....... just a thought.
p.s. the smart intelligent thing sounds very robotic man, we have a thing called a soul too which you can fill up
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
KontrollerX
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4,000 posts? I think you need to get out in field more and perhaps live your life....... just a thought."
4,000 posts?
Not quite yet but the ones I do have are a result of helping ungreatful dumbasses like yourself become better men.
Anyhow why don't you take your own advice and get off this forum completely and show me how its done chief?
You don't do that because like every other troll jagoff that comes here spouting worthless AFC advice you just want to run your mouth.
"p.s. the smart intelligent thing sounds very robotic man, we have a thing called a soul too which you can fill up"
Soul is just religious woo woo.
The smart intelligent thing is what smart and intelligent human beings do and they benefit from this behavior which is why a smart and intelligent person such as myself promotes such ways of carrying one's self.
And robotic? LOL, get the fvck out of here!
Next Level Game is where you belong with the rest of the lifetime AFC retards.
Its probably where you came from to begin with.
Another "fingerman" here with some covert trolling.
Very nice.
Hope you get a lot of e-high fives for it buddy. :crackup:
"we have a thing called a soul too which you can fill up"
Yeah maybe we'll take our "souls" over to the Shell station and fill em up hahaha you ridiculous troll retard!
kingy
Senior Don Juan
sorry didnt mean to offend.