"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Her Grandma is dying...
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
KontrollerX
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You don't want to begin a relationship close to a trauma like this or the girl may subconsciously begin to associate you with that horrible time in her life, resent you for it and then poof there goes your relationship and you are sh!t out of luck.
Also going forward with this drags you into the vortex of caretaker where no young guy should willingly put himself unless of course its part of his profession such as say a doctor, a priest/minister, clinical psychologist, hospice worker, etc.
kingy
Senior Don Juan
are you exclusive?
have u had sex?
what is all this Nexting business...... its a similar attitude you had before kontroller, not letting other people drag you down and looking for the bad in them and reasons to move on.
Instead look for the good and be bringing her up. Everything is possible and this situation sounds like it can easily be solved if he actually likes the the girl.
p.s. this is the stuff that fills you up and gets you consistant.
KontrollerX
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Its not "looking for the bad" in someone dude.
The "bad" is the current situation not the girl and the current and "bad" situation is right in front of his face, not something he "needs to look for" and he needs to move on to a better candidate whose not going through a traumatic event at the moment.
Its the smart and intelligent thing to do.
He's fortunate because its just the beginning of the getting to know you phase and he's presumably not that emotionally invested in the girl at all now which is the perfect time for exiting this undesireable scenario.
And besides I wasn't even advocating a total next but rather just for this guy to forget about her as in place her on the backburner and go deal with other plates.
When this chick feels good again she can then contact him indicating she is ready to begin the dating game once more.
Honestly I seriously wonder if you new guys ever think over a situation deeply before you post or if your mindset is just that AFC where you think putting yourself in unwinnable scenarios is a good idea?
kingy
Senior Don Juan
it absoultely is looking for the bad, you are focusing on it.
4,000 posts? I think you need to get out in field more and perhaps live your life....... just a thought.
p.s. the smart intelligent thing sounds very robotic man, we have a thing called a soul too which you can fill up
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
KontrollerX
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4,000 posts? I think you need to get out in field more and perhaps live your life....... just a thought."
4,000 posts?
Not quite yet but the ones I do have are a result of helping ungreatful dumbasses like yourself become better men.
Anyhow why don't you take your own advice and get off this forum completely and show me how its done chief?
You don't do that because like every other troll jagoff that comes here spouting worthless AFC advice you just want to run your mouth.
"p.s. the smart intelligent thing sounds very robotic man, we have a thing called a soul too which you can fill up"
Soul is just religious woo woo.
The smart intelligent thing is what smart and intelligent human beings do and they benefit from this behavior which is why a smart and intelligent person such as myself promotes such ways of carrying one's self.
And robotic? LOL, get the fvck out of here!
Next Level Game is where you belong with the rest of the lifetime AFC retards.
Its probably where you came from to begin with.
Another "fingerman" here with some covert trolling.
Very nice.
Hope you get a lot of e-high fives for it buddy. :crackup:
"we have a thing called a soul too which you can fill up"
Yeah maybe we'll take our "souls" over to the Shell station and fill em up hahaha you ridiculous troll retard!
kingy
Senior Don Juan
sorry didnt mean to offend.