"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Her girlfriend took her away...?

Baruch

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There was this girl at a party. We met before but only for a brief moment. But it seemed like she was interested the first time she met trying to qualify her to me by asking me to check out this one appartment she decorated for my friend.

At the party last night she came up to me and asks me to go have a drink with her at the bar. I accuse her of trying to take advantage of me. So we chat up at the bar and her friend comes up then another freind comes up so I say "Ill rap to yall later".

Later in the evening she comes up to me again and starts neg-hit me about my costume and a "fake" joint inside my bandana. We go on the balcony and smoke the "fake" joint. We were having a good time, alot of eye contact and kino. We head out to the dance floor and grind together...BUT then, her girlfriend comes up again and says she is leaving and takes her with her. I see them say bye to people and they head out to the door and leave.

Now what was that all about?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Reach

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You should have made a move. I got ****blocked and was too much of a ***** to make the number close. Hope I'll change that tonight.
 

alphawolfx

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she wanted you on the balcony

should have kissed her

when a girl goes c&f on you, she wants you... badly

if you had kissed hr, she wouldn't have let her friend drag her away
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Baruch

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Originally posted by alphawolfx
she wanted you on the balcony

should have kissed her

when a girl goes c&f on you, she wants you... badly

if you had kissed hr, she wouldn't have let her friend drag her away
Ive isolated her by going on the balcony. I wanted to plant a kiss on her, but there was just to much talking between us so I took her to the dance floor and we when we started to dance and getting really close i was gonna kiss her, and thats when her friend butted in.

It wouldve been perfect to kiss her on the balcony, but we just didnt position ourselves in a way that a kiss would be natural.

what should i do next when i see her?
 

frivolousz21

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one thing Baruch **** Natural..who cares about natural

many times..ive just stopped in a convo and grabbed her and kissed her.


its the risk you take for the reward.
 

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i thought you meant you really liked her then found out she was a lesbian! thats happened to me before actually, i was dancing with this girl and we were chatting and stuff and then i asked her if she had a bf then she giggled and said, im sorry but im a lesbian! so embarassing!
 
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