"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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her boyfriend is not giving her enough attention can i capitalize?

pete101

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if this HB bf is not giving her enough attention (ie calls texts general talking) can I capitalize somehow?

i know it's a dangerous situation to become friendzoned or orbiter status so I am wary about replacing him for attention purposes while he gets to bang her and me doing all the dirty work.

is he playing it right by not giving her enough attention? i sense she's looking to break up with him. i dont think she's an attention wh0re though (the signs are different from others i've dealt with)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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pete101 said:
if this HB bf is not giving her enough attention (ie calls texts general talking) can I capitalize somehow?

i know it's a dangerous situation to become friendzoned or orbiter status so I am wary about replacing him for attention purposes while he gets to bang her and me doing all the dirty work.

is he playing it right by not giving her enough attention? i sense she's looking to break up with him. i dont think she's an attention wh0re though (the signs are different from others i've dealt with)
Becareful....She may be using u as an emotional tampon....Try being extra sexual with her then u will know the truth...she maybe trying to turn u inot an afc orbitor/emotional tampon....I dont condone cheating....becareful...she may be getting the attnetion she wants out of u but hes the one boning her at the end of the day, and thats why i say becareful u dont want to be that guy who gets playedddd
 

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j0504s said:
Becareful....She may be using u as an emotional tampon....Try being extra sexual with her then u will know the truth...she maybe trying to turn u inot an afc orbitor/emotional tampon....I dont condone cheating....becareful...she may be getting the attnetion she wants out of u but hes the one boning her at the end of the day, and thats why i say becareful u dont want to be that guy who gets playedddd
yeah i'm aware i may be turned into an emotional tampon. getting the attention from me and getting boned by him. exactly what im concerned about happening.

she thinks i have a gf right now, so if i turn up the sexual stuff she'll think im a sleazebag? im looking to break up with my girl, she knows things aren't going well between us.

if i try to be too sexual before i've broken up with my girl it may backfire, maybe i should just organize a meet up with her.. i dont think she's looking to cheat but i do think she's about to end things with her bf and needs a reason to.
 

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Just go for it. Ask her to get together and then escalate. If she says no then you have your answer. Who cares if she thinks any less of you?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think you're best off just asking her to get together instead of giving her attention.

I meet a lot of girls with boyfriends and when I find them on Facebook and see their boyfriends I never get the impression that they are incapable of getting primal and totally satisfying the girl. I mean I could be wrong, but women (especially in college) seem to be pretty fickle and this is the impression I get.

I really don't think boyfriends matter, just the way she mentions him. If she uses a name or talks about him endearingly or says "I have a boyfriend" immediately then I think you're out.

Otherwise it's meaningless.
 

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Get sexual and ask out ASAP! Otherwise ditch her, as she might be looking for a new "girlfriend" to b!tch about the boyfriend.
 
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