"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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her boyfriend is not giving her enough attention can i capitalize?

pete101

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if this HB bf is not giving her enough attention (ie calls texts general talking) can I capitalize somehow?

i know it's a dangerous situation to become friendzoned or orbiter status so I am wary about replacing him for attention purposes while he gets to bang her and me doing all the dirty work.

is he playing it right by not giving her enough attention? i sense she's looking to break up with him. i dont think she's an attention wh0re though (the signs are different from others i've dealt with)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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pete101 said:
if this HB bf is not giving her enough attention (ie calls texts general talking) can I capitalize somehow?

i know it's a dangerous situation to become friendzoned or orbiter status so I am wary about replacing him for attention purposes while he gets to bang her and me doing all the dirty work.

is he playing it right by not giving her enough attention? i sense she's looking to break up with him. i dont think she's an attention wh0re though (the signs are different from others i've dealt with)
Becareful....She may be using u as an emotional tampon....Try being extra sexual with her then u will know the truth...she maybe trying to turn u inot an afc orbitor/emotional tampon....I dont condone cheating....becareful...she may be getting the attnetion she wants out of u but hes the one boning her at the end of the day, and thats why i say becareful u dont want to be that guy who gets playedddd
 

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j0504s said:
Becareful....She may be using u as an emotional tampon....Try being extra sexual with her then u will know the truth...she maybe trying to turn u inot an afc orbitor/emotional tampon....I dont condone cheating....becareful...she may be getting the attnetion she wants out of u but hes the one boning her at the end of the day, and thats why i say becareful u dont want to be that guy who gets playedddd
yeah i'm aware i may be turned into an emotional tampon. getting the attention from me and getting boned by him. exactly what im concerned about happening.

she thinks i have a gf right now, so if i turn up the sexual stuff she'll think im a sleazebag? im looking to break up with my girl, she knows things aren't going well between us.

if i try to be too sexual before i've broken up with my girl it may backfire, maybe i should just organize a meet up with her.. i dont think she's looking to cheat but i do think she's about to end things with her bf and needs a reason to.
 

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Just go for it. Ask her to get together and then escalate. If she says no then you have your answer. Who cares if she thinks any less of you?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I think you're best off just asking her to get together instead of giving her attention.

I meet a lot of girls with boyfriends and when I find them on Facebook and see their boyfriends I never get the impression that they are incapable of getting primal and totally satisfying the girl. I mean I could be wrong, but women (especially in college) seem to be pretty fickle and this is the impression I get.

I really don't think boyfriends matter, just the way she mentions him. If she uses a name or talks about him endearingly or says "I have a boyfriend" immediately then I think you're out.

Otherwise it's meaningless.
 

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Get sexual and ask out ASAP! Otherwise ditch her, as she might be looking for a new "girlfriend" to b!tch about the boyfriend.
 
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