"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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big_jeffry

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experts say that if you visualize yourself achieving certain goals, there is a great chance that you will do it, because you are being positive. AFC's who have a low self esteem or see themselves as ugly or can never find the right woman, these things seem to reappear all their lifetime. So, visualizing sucess, confidence, other dj skills done correctly is a must for any aspiring dj.
Doesn't this just make sense?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yes it does. I visualize all the time even in my sleep and yep it works.
 

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Im sure it does work but I never really bothered with it.
 

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Yep!

Check out some of pook's classic bible posts: he describes the importance of imagining yourself to be "The Great Catch" that all of the girls dream of. This way you will have confidence in yourself (Though it takes time), you will be much less likely to fail, and if you do, you will not be devastated by it. Instead you will figure "Hey, I can do better anyway. I am The Great Catch!"
 

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I find it's better to visualizein the short term. Imagining yourself in a sleek mustang with huge muscles and tons of friends is all well and good, but you need to work for those goals. So, instead, visualize yourself working out hard that day as soon as you wake up. Visualize yourself looking for a job that day. Visualize yourself meeting a new person that day.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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