"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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drydupfob

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Hey guys, I'v been lurking this site for a while now and I have learned so much about girls and how to deal with them in genernal.

But anyways here's my situation. I have this "friend", we'v been pretty close for a while now. Everytime we hang out, it gets really touchy and flirty stuff like that.

She got a bf 2 or 3 month ago, and ever since than I'v gotten to like her alot more. Like I wasn't really interested before, although im pretty sure im not on the friend ladder. But ever since she's gotten a bf....

Anyways I took her to the beach on thurseday, it was really good. We had great kino and "deep conversations" **** like that. Kissed her on the forehead couple of times, she seemed to like it.

so my question is what to do now? Should I just treat her as a normal dating relationship or with more causion? I'm normally not the kind of guy that likes to take other people's girl away, but something about her intrigues me.

O and a lil back ground im 19, just finished my first year of college. She's 18 just graduated highschool. Her bf's a 3rd year in college, But i really dont' see him as a threat.

thx for reading. and please give me some feedback
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by drydupfob
She got a bf 2 or 3 month ago, and ever since than I'v gotten to like her alot more. Like I wasn't really interested before, although im pretty sure im not on the friend ladder. But ever since she's gotten a bf....
RED FLAGS ALERT

1. U didn't like her before and all of a sudden an interest has sparked. YOU want her becasue she's taken and inside your brain you just wants to test and see if u can get her

2. You are on the friend ladder buddy since she's gota bf now

3. like i tell all the guys. Why would you want a girls whos taken? you take her away and chances are that when she finds someone better than you she'll do the same, betray you.
 

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i too don't understand why guys go after girls that are already taken, you're just giving her the extra attention to validate herself as a person and she'll dispose of you once you get too serious.
 

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Even if she has a bf that does not mean im on the friend ladder. I think I have played my cards pretty well hence, hence she is always the one that calls or aims me.

And to answer your question, ya its for my own sick ego.

So please people help me out :)
 

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Originally posted by drydupfob
Even if she has a bf that does not mean im on the friend ladder. I think I have played my cards pretty well hence, hence she is always the one that calls or aims me.

And to answer your question, ya its for my own sick ego.

So please people help me out :)
Originally posted by drydupfob
Even if she has a bf that does not mean im on the friend ladder. I think I have played my cards pretty well hence, hence she is always the one that calls or aims me.

And to answer your question, ya its for my own sick ego.

So please people help me out :)
Gosh...I just hope you don't bang your head against the wall for this one...here you go:

-She needs to see that you have something better to offer than her current b.f, so go ahead and try to do so.
-Dont be a lapdog, do not give her everything because she'll get bored and it'll be no chalenge plus she'll get bored easily
-Don't give her too much attention and please do not get or try to get serious with her. As I have said before, girls who two time or leave their bfs for other guys are not worthy of a relationship
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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drydupfob

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Hey thx for the advice guys, ya im not really looking for anything serious. I kinda just want a summer fling, and the fact that she's taken makes it interesting.
 

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ur in it for the chase and shes in it cuz ur becoming her emotional tampong....
 
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