"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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drydupfob

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Hey guys, I'v been lurking this site for a while now and I have learned so much about girls and how to deal with them in genernal.

But anyways here's my situation. I have this "friend", we'v been pretty close for a while now. Everytime we hang out, it gets really touchy and flirty stuff like that.

She got a bf 2 or 3 month ago, and ever since than I'v gotten to like her alot more. Like I wasn't really interested before, although im pretty sure im not on the friend ladder. But ever since she's gotten a bf....

Anyways I took her to the beach on thurseday, it was really good. We had great kino and "deep conversations" **** like that. Kissed her on the forehead couple of times, she seemed to like it.

so my question is what to do now? Should I just treat her as a normal dating relationship or with more causion? I'm normally not the kind of guy that likes to take other people's girl away, but something about her intrigues me.

O and a lil back ground im 19, just finished my first year of college. She's 18 just graduated highschool. Her bf's a 3rd year in college, But i really dont' see him as a threat.

thx for reading. and please give me some feedback
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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HeartlessBtch

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Originally posted by drydupfob
She got a bf 2 or 3 month ago, and ever since than I'v gotten to like her alot more. Like I wasn't really interested before, although im pretty sure im not on the friend ladder. But ever since she's gotten a bf....
RED FLAGS ALERT

1. U didn't like her before and all of a sudden an interest has sparked. YOU want her becasue she's taken and inside your brain you just wants to test and see if u can get her

2. You are on the friend ladder buddy since she's gota bf now

3. like i tell all the guys. Why would you want a girls whos taken? you take her away and chances are that when she finds someone better than you she'll do the same, betray you.
 

themanwithnoname

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i too don't understand why guys go after girls that are already taken, you're just giving her the extra attention to validate herself as a person and she'll dispose of you once you get too serious.
 

drydupfob

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Even if she has a bf that does not mean im on the friend ladder. I think I have played my cards pretty well hence, hence she is always the one that calls or aims me.

And to answer your question, ya its for my own sick ego.

So please people help me out :)
 

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Originally posted by drydupfob
Even if she has a bf that does not mean im on the friend ladder. I think I have played my cards pretty well hence, hence she is always the one that calls or aims me.

And to answer your question, ya its for my own sick ego.

So please people help me out :)
Originally posted by drydupfob
Even if she has a bf that does not mean im on the friend ladder. I think I have played my cards pretty well hence, hence she is always the one that calls or aims me.

And to answer your question, ya its for my own sick ego.

So please people help me out :)
Gosh...I just hope you don't bang your head against the wall for this one...here you go:

-She needs to see that you have something better to offer than her current b.f, so go ahead and try to do so.
-Dont be a lapdog, do not give her everything because she'll get bored and it'll be no chalenge plus she'll get bored easily
-Don't give her too much attention and please do not get or try to get serious with her. As I have said before, girls who two time or leave their bfs for other guys are not worthy of a relationship
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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drydupfob

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Hey thx for the advice guys, ya im not really looking for anything serious. I kinda just want a summer fling, and the fact that she's taken makes it interesting.
 

Morphiex

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ur in it for the chase and shes in it cuz ur becoming her emotional tampong....
 
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