ok i have a really hot girlfriend, and girls on the side, but for some reason when it comes down to sex i lose interest, i still perform but i do it cause they want to, i find women sexualy attractive but when it comes to the sex part i lose interest as if i dont want to. i seem to want to masturbate more than sleeping with girls, and i know im not gay cause the though of being with another guy(pardon me if any gay people are reading this) discusses me. i seem to be turned on by porn more than the actual act of sex with girls, its like it bores me. so is there something wrong? could it be fixed??? some one help....
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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maybe u dont find ur gal as attractive as u think? Maybe shes lacking in personality? Maybe u have other problems on ur mind? Maybe it's aphase, you're under stress of some sort? Maybe ur gal isnt that good in bed? Maybe u haven't learnt what u like?
I do think that there is a serious problem of porn though these days. We all are exposed to it, often quite early on in life, before we experience the real deal with a gal. So we spend a lot of time getting off on porn. Therfore the pavlovian conditioned behavioural response develops associating sexual gratification with porn as opposed to with the real thing, so we find ourselves more drawn to porn/m-bation.
Just a theory, but I am afraid i think it might be true in many cases. All is not lost though, as i am sure with strict training and discipline u can wean urself off porn and back to the real deal. Just like ppl quit smoking, u have to quit this addiction. Ah well, thats my two cents.
maybe u dont find ur gal as attractive as u think? Maybe shes lacking in personality? Maybe u have other problems on ur mind? Maybe it's aphase, you're under stress of some sort? Maybe ur gal isnt that good in bed? Maybe u haven't learnt what u like?
I do think that there is a serious problem of porn though these days. We all are exposed to it, often quite early on in life, before we experience the real deal with a gal. So we spend a lot of time getting off on porn. Therfore the pavlovian conditioned behavioural response develops associating sexual gratification with porn as opposed to with the real thing, so we find ourselves more drawn to porn/m-bation.
Just a theory, but I am afraid i think it might be true in many cases. All is not lost though, as i am sure with strict training and discipline u can wean urself off porn and back to the real deal. Just like ppl quit smoking, u have to quit this addiction. Ah well, thats my two cents.
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Are you on any medication? Do you have a history of abuse?
Where's your dad at nacho???
Seriously though, here's what you need to do. Stop flogging the dolphin so damn much, you'll have a higher sex drive when her clothes come off. Also, you could show her how to give you a hand job, bj, whatever to get you more worked up for sex.
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Something is holding you back from having sex. We cannot tell what it is .. i certainly cannot .. perhaps you need to talk to a shrink. Find out what is holding you back. For me .. only reason not to have sex with a girl would be fear of getting STD .. But .. when the heat is on .. i forget about STD .. 
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DON'T watch any porn
--> get extremely horny
--> bang your girlfriend like no tomorrow!!
--> get extremely horny
--> bang your girlfriend like no tomorrow!!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.