ok i have a really hot girlfriend, and girls on the side, but for some reason when it comes down to sex i lose interest, i still perform but i do it cause they want to, i find women sexualy attractive but when it comes to the sex part i lose interest as if i dont want to. i seem to want to masturbate more than sleeping with girls, and i know im not gay cause the though of being with another guy(pardon me if any gay people are reading this) discusses me. i seem to be turned on by porn more than the actual act of sex with girls, its like it bores me. so is there something wrong? could it be fixed??? some one help....
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
maybe
maybe u dont find ur gal as attractive as u think? Maybe shes lacking in personality? Maybe u have other problems on ur mind? Maybe it's aphase, you're under stress of some sort? Maybe ur gal isnt that good in bed? Maybe u haven't learnt what u like?
I do think that there is a serious problem of porn though these days. We all are exposed to it, often quite early on in life, before we experience the real deal with a gal. So we spend a lot of time getting off on porn. Therfore the pavlovian conditioned behavioural response develops associating sexual gratification with porn as opposed to with the real thing, so we find ourselves more drawn to porn/m-bation.
Just a theory, but I am afraid i think it might be true in many cases. All is not lost though, as i am sure with strict training and discipline u can wean urself off porn and back to the real deal. Just like ppl quit smoking, u have to quit this addiction. Ah well, thats my two cents.
maybe u dont find ur gal as attractive as u think? Maybe shes lacking in personality? Maybe u have other problems on ur mind? Maybe it's aphase, you're under stress of some sort? Maybe ur gal isnt that good in bed? Maybe u haven't learnt what u like?
I do think that there is a serious problem of porn though these days. We all are exposed to it, often quite early on in life, before we experience the real deal with a gal. So we spend a lot of time getting off on porn. Therfore the pavlovian conditioned behavioural response develops associating sexual gratification with porn as opposed to with the real thing, so we find ourselves more drawn to porn/m-bation.
Just a theory, but I am afraid i think it might be true in many cases. All is not lost though, as i am sure with strict training and discipline u can wean urself off porn and back to the real deal. Just like ppl quit smoking, u have to quit this addiction. Ah well, thats my two cents.
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Are you on any medication? Do you have a history of abuse?
Where's your dad at nacho???
Seriously though, here's what you need to do. Stop flogging the dolphin so damn much, you'll have a higher sex drive when her clothes come off. Also, you could show her how to give you a hand job, bj, whatever to get you more worked up for sex.
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Something is holding you back from having sex. We cannot tell what it is .. i certainly cannot .. perhaps you need to talk to a shrink. Find out what is holding you back. For me .. only reason not to have sex with a girl would be fear of getting STD .. But .. when the heat is on .. i forget about STD .. 
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DON'T watch any porn
--> get extremely horny
--> bang your girlfriend like no tomorrow!!
--> get extremely horny
--> bang your girlfriend like no tomorrow!!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.