ok i have a really hot girlfriend, and girls on the side, but for some reason when it comes down to sex i lose interest, i still perform but i do it cause they want to, i find women sexualy attractive but when it comes to the sex part i lose interest as if i dont want to. i seem to want to masturbate more than sleeping with girls, and i know im not gay cause the though of being with another guy(pardon me if any gay people are reading this) discusses me. i seem to be turned on by porn more than the actual act of sex with girls, its like it bores me. so is there something wrong? could it be fixed??? some one help....
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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maybe u dont find ur gal as attractive as u think? Maybe shes lacking in personality? Maybe u have other problems on ur mind? Maybe it's aphase, you're under stress of some sort? Maybe ur gal isnt that good in bed? Maybe u haven't learnt what u like?
I do think that there is a serious problem of porn though these days. We all are exposed to it, often quite early on in life, before we experience the real deal with a gal. So we spend a lot of time getting off on porn. Therfore the pavlovian conditioned behavioural response develops associating sexual gratification with porn as opposed to with the real thing, so we find ourselves more drawn to porn/m-bation.
Just a theory, but I am afraid i think it might be true in many cases. All is not lost though, as i am sure with strict training and discipline u can wean urself off porn and back to the real deal. Just like ppl quit smoking, u have to quit this addiction. Ah well, thats my two cents.
maybe u dont find ur gal as attractive as u think? Maybe shes lacking in personality? Maybe u have other problems on ur mind? Maybe it's aphase, you're under stress of some sort? Maybe ur gal isnt that good in bed? Maybe u haven't learnt what u like?
I do think that there is a serious problem of porn though these days. We all are exposed to it, often quite early on in life, before we experience the real deal with a gal. So we spend a lot of time getting off on porn. Therfore the pavlovian conditioned behavioural response develops associating sexual gratification with porn as opposed to with the real thing, so we find ourselves more drawn to porn/m-bation.
Just a theory, but I am afraid i think it might be true in many cases. All is not lost though, as i am sure with strict training and discipline u can wean urself off porn and back to the real deal. Just like ppl quit smoking, u have to quit this addiction. Ah well, thats my two cents.
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Are you on any medication? Do you have a history of abuse?
Where's your dad at nacho???
Seriously though, here's what you need to do. Stop flogging the dolphin so damn much, you'll have a higher sex drive when her clothes come off. Also, you could show her how to give you a hand job, bj, whatever to get you more worked up for sex.
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Something is holding you back from having sex. We cannot tell what it is .. i certainly cannot .. perhaps you need to talk to a shrink. Find out what is holding you back. For me .. only reason not to have sex with a girl would be fear of getting STD .. But .. when the heat is on .. i forget about STD .. 
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DON'T watch any porn
--> get extremely horny
--> bang your girlfriend like no tomorrow!!
--> get extremely horny
--> bang your girlfriend like no tomorrow!!
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.