Why do girls turn really cold on me sometimes? I've been out with a few girls several times and after a few dates they turn very cold on me. Why do they turn this way and what should I do? This is really killing me. Please help me out.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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- Thread starter Adrian
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
its happens to me to, your not their "type" as in your not good looking enough, girls say looks arent everyting. That means if your good looking and a dumbass, you'll only get far if shes a slut. If your ugly and smart, you'll get aways until shes sick of you paying for **** on dates and stops calling.
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you're way too vague. Give us some more insight into the dates and what happened etc. how were they cold.... was it when you asked certain questions? or what. explain it in detail bro
you're way too vague. Give us some more insight into the dates and what happened etc. how were they cold.... was it when you asked certain questions? or what. explain it in detail bro
I don't think I can get anymore specific than I am right now because I feel really f***ed up at the moment but anyways....... They seem very open and warm at one point then the next day you see another side of them. They begin to ignore and treat you different in a not so nice manner.
could be you come on too strong or become annoying somehow. I guess if you took a closer look at what exactly happens with each girl you might recognize a pattern of how you might be doing something she would eventually find annoying, like calling too much or being too pushy, and then you could change from there.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.