"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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met a chick a week ago, went back and forth with the texts, she text me late one night(might have been a surprising booty call), I texted her back, we didnt meet up it was very late, called her on the phone that same late night and said its better she calls/texts me because her sked and has a kid is more complicated than mine and she lives 30 miles away. Next day I texted her and said how it was nice getting to know her better on the phone after the initial one hour I originally met her a week ago. So she hasn't texted/called me back in 2 days. any advice/opinions??
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Women are whimsical and change their minds from day today. The more effort you make, the quicker they lose interest. If she's interested, she'll get in touch. If she's not, then there's nothing you can do or say to change that.

I also think you're placing too much importance on her texting or calling within a certain time frame. If you start worrying after just 2 days without a text then it tells me you're too invested in her and need to chill out, do your own thing and give her space. A lot of guys fall at this hurdle because they start panicking after a few days without a text and then start chasing the woman, sending ultimatums, trying little mind tricks or alike, whereas if they just gave her some space she might get back to him a few days or weeks later.

In the early stages of dating most girls like to retain their independence. They need their own time and own friends, and any signs that a guy could infringe on that freedom will scare them off instantly.
 

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no advice yet? wow this seems like a familiar predictament that is never addressed.
 

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Jariel said:
Women are whimsical and change their minds from day today. The more effort you make, the quicker they lose interest. If she's interested, she'll get in touch. If she's not, then there's nothing you can do or say to change that.

I also think you're placing too much importance on her texting or calling within a certain time frame. If you start worrying after just 2 days without a text then it tells me you're too invested in her and need to chill out, do your own thing and give her space. A lot of guys fall at this hurdle because they start panicking after a few days without a text and then start chasing the woman, sending ultimatums, trying little mind tricks or alike, whereas if they just gave her some space she might get back to him a few days or weeks later.

In the early stages of dating most girls like to retain their independence. They need their own time and own friends, and any signs that a guy could infringe on that freedom will scare them off instantly.
Words of wisdom.
 

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Jariel said:
Women are whimsical and change their minds from day today. The more effort you make, the quicker they lose interest. If she's interested, she'll get in touch. If she's not, then there's nothing you can do or say to change that.

I also think you're placing too much importance on her texting or calling within a certain time frame. If you start worrying after just 2 days without a text then it tells me you're too invested in her and need to chill out, do your own thing and give her space. A lot of guys fall at this hurdle because they start panicking after a few days without a text and then start chasing the woman, sending ultimatums, trying little mind tricks or alike, whereas if they just gave her some space she might get back to him a few days or weeks later.

In the early stages of dating most girls like to retain their independence. They need their own time and own friends, and any signs that a guy could infringe on that freedom will scare them off instantly.

we havent been on a date yet...met her a week ago and she from my point of view booty texted me the other night that I was too late to respond to...she is a stripper as well....and its not that im too invested in her I just don't want to ruin the opportunity while its very ripe to shack up with her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"she is a stripper as well"

It took me 2 months before my stripper gf would reliably text me back (the point where we started going on real dates). It took 3 months before she would reliably show up for plans made in advance (versus texting me about "tonight"). By the 4th month she was like clockwork. Our last 4 plans she showed up at the exact minute, made up to 9 days in advance. But I still go NC between dates. Beautiful women need more space. They need to be free and come back to you on their own.

Note that in the last month, she has texted me first (on a given day) 12 times and I never texted her first once. Thus, I only respond.

Compare that to the first 15 texts where I initiated 14 of them.
 

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bigneil said:
"she is a stripper as well"

It took me 2 months before my stripper gf would reliably text me back (the point where we started going on real dates). It took 3 months before she would reliably show up for plans made in advance (versus texting me about "tonight"). By the 4th month she was like clockwork. Our last 4 plans she showed up at the exact minute, made up to 9 days in advance. But I still go NC between dates. Beautiful women need more space. They need to be free and come back to you on their own.

Note that in the last month, she has texted me first (on a given day) 12 times and I never texted her first once. Thus, I only respond.

Compare that the the first 15 texts where I initiated 14 of them.
Think I might have insulted her by not being too available or eager to shack up with her and she sensed it. I tried the opposite psycholgy...we will see what happens havent talked to her since late thursday night.
 

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sicsec, you're not paying any attention to the good advice given to you. It's like your computer only allows you to post, and not read.
 

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sicsec, you're not paying any attention to the good advice given to you. It's like your computer only allows you to post, and not read.
Im taking the advice im just playing devils advocate with myself. I was kind of shocked how assertive this girl was and I was like in a holding pattern and didnt really make any overtrures. My gut instinct tells me the window of opportunity opened and closed!! thats how fast that happens and than I also know how quick she gave me her cell number, Im one of many over the last week or so. So I might be on the backburner as we speak or thrown in the trash..LOL!! I feel like her decision to get it on was on her sked not mine and she put it out there and I didnt close the deal.
 

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sicsec, the big thing I have learned is that you can push them away with too much attention, but not giving them enough attention invariably makes them want you more. They may try to get you to give up your frame because they are used to being chased, but once they see you are different, they fall in line.

In other words, I wouldn't come on too strong right now. Don't do a 180. She's interested, don't make her second guess that by changing who you were to begin with.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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