Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Just leave it alone, forget about her. Baltic Republic?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Lithuania...
Even in the "forget about her" situations I like to try something for purely the learning experience. Believe me, I've sabotaged a lot of opportunities for the sake of knowledge.
OK, I know some women are "nice enough" that they'll go out of their way to give you an excuse that will relieve all guilt from their conscience. But let's just for the hell of it say that this isn't one of those, even though it probably is. If it were, then any response is equally pointless. The way I see it...no response equals nothing. Any response equals nothing or 1 out of a 100 something. Why not spend 1 minute composing a short response?
iveyleeger
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So write back. You lose nothing. But if she asks for money to help her out, then blow, it's a scam.
Overall, online is a waste of time for 90% of the men. We are just subsidizing the 10% with great pics. You already know that. So what's the point?
Overall, online is a waste of time for 90% of the men. We are just subsidizing the 10% with great pics. You already know that. So what's the point?
al77
Master Don Juan
Obviously there is something fishy since she stopped responding and then suddenly told you abou tthe accident.
But we dont know for sure what happened - did she find another guy? Did she get bored with him and wante dto get back to you?
Does she simple need a ride/help from you?
What did she ask you? nothing? Just stated she got into an accident?
Be cool, pretend as if nothing happened:
"So your car doesn't shine anymore, how sad...
... you were "sleeping" on your airbags yesterday?"
I.e. deploy you C&F as if nothing happened.
Do you want to go out with her? Then maybe offer some - she would appreciate this.
"so you are a carless girl this week. Do you need a ride? I know some cool destinations around YYYY town"
Of course respond - why not? If you offer some simple help (a ride for exmaple...I dont believe she would ask you , a starnger for money. If she does - you know what to do...)
Anyway, you will have a chance to meet her and talk to her and look like a cool helpful guy.
But obviously dont spend the whole day with her.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
All of this for a chick in the Baltics... Does this not seem like a waste of time to anyone other than me?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
al77
Master Don Juan
I am not sure what you are trying to say...look:
I got that she is _here_, working on her degree and she is not somewhere in the Baltics.
Why would it be waste of time to get to know this chick?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
It just seems like a lot of effort for a woman who has a mediocre interest level at best. It may just be my naiveté but I feel that time is better spent with women who are genuinely interested.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
D@mn double post... :cuss:
iveyleeger
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They forgot . . .
* Live in a house with 12 cats (3 dead) and smell like LitterMaid
* Too ugly to cross street during Code Orange terror alerts
* Mom only unlocks cage on Wed's for a little "one on one" ... to tired after that to go out
* Need to check oven timer 158 times, re-align all shoes in closet to face south by south-east, and count to 48,002 by 12's before stepping outside (haven't been outside since 1999)
* Can't tolerate sun (and nightblind)
* No penis
* Live in a house with 12 cats (3 dead) and smell like LitterMaid
* Too ugly to cross street during Code Orange terror alerts
* Mom only unlocks cage on Wed's for a little "one on one" ... to tired after that to go out
* Need to check oven timer 158 times, re-align all shoes in closet to face south by south-east, and count to 48,002 by 12's before stepping outside (haven't been outside since 1999)
* Can't tolerate sun (and nightblind)
* No penis
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No, no. She's been living here less than two miles away the past five years. I agree it'd be a waste of time if otherwise.
I sent a pithy two sentence reply. Took less than five minutes. That's the end of my effort and thoughts about it.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Got'cha. Onward and upward.
Ok, another match question.
HB10 I just have to write to. Do you think C&F would work? Or should I lay back on it a little?
GermanDreamGirl
HB10 I just have to write to. Do you think C&F would work? Or should I lay back on it a little?
GermanDreamGirl
al77
Master Don Juan
hahaha, I have seen a very similar profile, but the pic was much much better, with crooked teeth and stuff.
Much more interesting is to post a good model pic and average joe profile. That was an awesome experiment: women of all ages and looks send emails "aahhhh... you are so intelligent! You got a good personality...blah blah" when in fact he just look really good: tall, lean, serious.... Women dig looks a lot! But there is nothing can be done to actually improve looks I think.
Huh? By no means did I have anything to do with that. This is the work of some local prankster. It turned up in my search of locals, and thought it'd be worth posting for a laugh. "My perfect date would start with a romantic dinner at Famous Dave's and then end in my dungeon where I will beat you senslessly, then knock you to the floor in a pool of blood. " Pretty good, whoever it was who put it up.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Look who's back...Lithuanian girl...
"How have things been with you? Did you go on your trip to Europe? I just thought I would drop you a line to see if you wanted to talk more.
Well, I am school-free now, however, I feel that I might be going back to school at some point in my life again. I had my brother from back home visiting me here couple weeks ago and we had a great trip to Bryce and Grand Canyons. It felt great there! I am back to wanting to enjoy life and meeting people"
We talked online two months ago but never met, and I'm suspecting she started seeing someone at the time and that's why she didn't respond. It seems that didn't work out, and I'm the backup.
I'm treating this as an experiment, as she's at the bottom of my list and I could care less. What would be the best response?
match.com sucks ass. You can't even respond to mail unless you pay.
There are two far better services out there...
www.matchmaker.com
and
www.cupid.com
matchmaker is the best dating site, in my opinion. The people seem to be of higher quality. YOU can contact people for free during the free trial period and you can alway respond when someone contacts you.
cupid allows free account members to respond to mail for free and send eye contacts for free to show interest.
Both typically have a lot of members.
There are two far better services out there...
www.matchmaker.com
and
www.cupid.com
matchmaker is the best dating site, in my opinion. The people seem to be of higher quality. YOU can contact people for free during the free trial period and you can alway respond when someone contacts you.
cupid allows free account members to respond to mail for free and send eye contacts for free to show interest.
Both typically have a lot of members.
No one gave any responses as how to reply.
I just said, hi, I'm busy, but might have time to talk to you, how was your trip? Got back a three paragraph response from her...but a week later. She's still flakey. My intuition tells me she's still involved with some other guy, but seeing what's out there. I'll play along.Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Say "Sure, let's meet for coffee and reaquaint ourselves. I know this great shop Uptown. Meet me there (insert place, date and time)."
Her answer will tell you her interest level.
Her answer will tell you her interest level.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.