"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Help with breaking the ice

TheTurtle

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Going to a "mixer" in a couple of weeks and I need help from you guys on approaches. I've read "The DJ Bible", I've read several threads on this website and I'm in the process of reading "The Rational Male". All of what I have read so far is excellent theory and doctrine, but seems short on specifics. What works for you? Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated. I'll post again with a field report and debriefing afterwards.
Here's the nuts and bolts:
Everyone will be 30 and up. (Presents challenges, I know)
7pm-10pm (tight time frame)
Organized by a church (Presents challenges and opportunities)

And that's it. Thanks in advance for your help!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If you don´t have kids of your own, stay the f0ck away from single moms. This is very very important.

About the ice thing. Be laid back and ask them a favor. Like yo b1tch, pass me a napkin (not exact words but it´s worked for me). Never break eye contact until they do. Indirect compliments. Be confident AF all the time.
 

Bible_Belt

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Just find an activity you like, then seek out others who are into the same thing. Unless it is something extra dorky, there will be at least some women involved. The problem with church dating is that the church has an agenda. They want single people to get married and spit out kids, so they keep coming to church. Unless that is what you want, too, I would look elsewhere.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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