"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Help with breaking the ice

TheTurtle

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Going to a "mixer" in a couple of weeks and I need help from you guys on approaches. I've read "The DJ Bible", I've read several threads on this website and I'm in the process of reading "The Rational Male". All of what I have read so far is excellent theory and doctrine, but seems short on specifics. What works for you? Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated. I'll post again with a field report and debriefing afterwards.
Here's the nuts and bolts:
Everyone will be 30 and up. (Presents challenges, I know)
7pm-10pm (tight time frame)
Organized by a church (Presents challenges and opportunities)

And that's it. Thanks in advance for your help!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Doctor Europeo

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If you don´t have kids of your own, stay the f0ck away from single moms. This is very very important.

About the ice thing. Be laid back and ask them a favor. Like yo b1tch, pass me a napkin (not exact words but it´s worked for me). Never break eye contact until they do. Indirect compliments. Be confident AF all the time.
 

Bible_Belt

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Just find an activity you like, then seek out others who are into the same thing. Unless it is something extra dorky, there will be at least some women involved. The problem with church dating is that the church has an agenda. They want single people to get married and spit out kids, so they keep coming to church. Unless that is what you want, too, I would look elsewhere.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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