hey just join...been readin your post for awhile...an i think u guy can help me out...i maybe just readin to much into this with this girl but i dont know....k here the thing...........i have been (datin) this girl for like a mouth now....an everything is goin good....she want to take it slow which i have never really done an same with her.....she said she is really interested...but she just dosnt want to mass up with what we have....all of her friend say she crezy not to date me....an that pretty much the thing...girl if ur friend keep tell u 2 go out with this guy would u get sick of it....cuz i think she is an it may mass up what we have...any thought...thanks for the help
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
help with a girl
- Thread starter shady313
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
There are a few. We discourage women from joining this forum because its counter productive. Automatically you're going to get the 'Just take it slowly with her so she's comfortable. Just be nice and listen to her and do nice things for her and she'll slowly like you more.'
It doesn't work that way. Don't rely on female opinions for what to do next. They'll give you 'motherly' advice.
With this girl tease her, make yourself a challenge, have fun with it and don't be too into her.
It doesn't work that way. Don't rely on female opinions for what to do next. They'll give you 'motherly' advice.
With this girl tease her, make yourself a challenge, have fun with it and don't be too into her.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Docs
Banned
Make her want to go faster 
Docs
Banned
It's just one of those days today
There was a point in that one though. She wants to go slow, you want her to go faster. So...make her want to go faster
Yes! I'm not entirely useless today!
There was a point in that one though. She wants to go slow, you want her to go faster. So...make her want to go faster
Yes! I'm not entirely useless today!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.