hey just join...been readin your post for awhile...an i think u guy can help me out...i maybe just readin to much into this with this girl but i dont know....k here the thing...........i have been (datin) this girl for like a mouth now....an everything is goin good....she want to take it slow which i have never really done an same with her.....she said she is really interested...but she just dosnt want to mass up with what we have....all of her friend say she crezy not to date me....an that pretty much the thing...girl if ur friend keep tell u 2 go out with this guy would u get sick of it....cuz i think she is an it may mass up what we have...any thought...thanks for the help
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
help with a girl
- Thread starter shady313
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
There are a few. We discourage women from joining this forum because its counter productive. Automatically you're going to get the 'Just take it slowly with her so she's comfortable. Just be nice and listen to her and do nice things for her and she'll slowly like you more.'
It doesn't work that way. Don't rely on female opinions for what to do next. They'll give you 'motherly' advice.
With this girl tease her, make yourself a challenge, have fun with it and don't be too into her.
It doesn't work that way. Don't rely on female opinions for what to do next. They'll give you 'motherly' advice.
With this girl tease her, make yourself a challenge, have fun with it and don't be too into her.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Docs
Banned
Make her want to go faster 
Docs
Banned
It's just one of those days today
There was a point in that one though. She wants to go slow, you want her to go faster. So...make her want to go faster
Yes! I'm not entirely useless today!
There was a point in that one though. She wants to go slow, you want her to go faster. So...make her want to go faster
Yes! I'm not entirely useless today!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.