hey just join...been readin your post for awhile...an i think u guy can help me out...i maybe just readin to much into this with this girl but i dont know....k here the thing...........i have been (datin) this girl for like a mouth now....an everything is goin good....she want to take it slow which i have never really done an same with her.....she said she is really interested...but she just dosnt want to mass up with what we have....all of her friend say she crezy not to date me....an that pretty much the thing...girl if ur friend keep tell u 2 go out with this guy would u get sick of it....cuz i think she is an it may mass up what we have...any thought...thanks for the help
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
help with a girl
- Thread starter shady313
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
There are a few. We discourage women from joining this forum because its counter productive. Automatically you're going to get the 'Just take it slowly with her so she's comfortable. Just be nice and listen to her and do nice things for her and she'll slowly like you more.'
It doesn't work that way. Don't rely on female opinions for what to do next. They'll give you 'motherly' advice.
With this girl tease her, make yourself a challenge, have fun with it and don't be too into her.
It doesn't work that way. Don't rely on female opinions for what to do next. They'll give you 'motherly' advice.
With this girl tease her, make yourself a challenge, have fun with it and don't be too into her.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Docs
Banned
Make her want to go faster 
Docs
Banned
It's just one of those days today
There was a point in that one though. She wants to go slow, you want her to go faster. So...make her want to go faster
Yes! I'm not entirely useless today!
There was a point in that one though. She wants to go slow, you want her to go faster. So...make her want to go faster
Yes! I'm not entirely useless today!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.