"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Help!! What should I do?

Macaframalama

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So I dumped her and her Facebook status immediately updated to in a relationship with another guy. I had her removed already off of social media, but my sister called me to tell me about it. What a piece of work
Cold!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Finally just snapped out of it. I was stuck on the oneitus thoughts. Even though I never want to get back together with her. My subconscious was actively pursuing thoughts of “when”.

Time to work on myself, do what I want to do, and become the person that I want to be. I’m committing myself to becoming better than I was before and happier.
 

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**Update**

So I went no contact, and this girl went completely nuts. I blocked her off of everything and she started calling me from different numbers. 60 missed calls yesterday. Then she started blowing up my email until I blocked her off of that as well. The last thing she said to me was that if I’m going to be like that, she’s going to go and **** a mutual friend. My friend called me, and told me that she was trying to invite him out lol. So him and myself met up, went out, had two hb9s by the end of the night. Lol. And she’s still in the relationship with the other guy. Lmao. Also she tried telling me that the reason she had the relationship status update was a test to see if I cared but because I’m spinning other plates now I ruined everything
What a f***ing wench, you are better off without her mate. Anyone who cheats on you after you agree on commitment can GTFO, doesn't matter how hot they are, how much you love them, eject them out of your life because people like that are poisonous.

If you treat someone right and they cheat, it shows weak character, weak morals and immaturity. None of the stuff you want with someone.

Even if you can go out and get girls I wouldn't just now, btw. Easy to descend into a spiral of getting with loads of girls to ease the pain and then you just end up with an STI or another s*** rebound relationship.

Instead just focus on your buddies, your hobbies, your family and the gym. Make yourself #1 for a month or two, and then you might be ready to go and find someone decent again.
 

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What a f***ing wench, you are better off without her mate. Anyone who cheats on you after you agree on commitment can GTFO, doesn't matter how hot they are, how much you love them, eject them out of your life because people like that are poisonous.

If you treat someone right and they cheat, it shows weak character, weak morals and immaturity. None of the stuff you want with someone.

Even if you can go out and get girls I wouldn't just now, btw. Easy to descend into a spiral of getting with loads of girls to ease the pain and then you just end up with an STI or another s*** rebound relationship.

Instead just focus on your buddies, your hobbies, your family and the gym. Make yourself #1 for a month or two, and then you might be ready to go and find someone decent again.
Thanks. That’s definitely what I’m fixing to do
 
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