Hey everyone, i'd appreciate help on a specific subject. So i am 18 currently on the last year of my studies and i've known a girl who we would refer to as M. We've been friends for a while but i decided to grow some balls and ask her out before valentines day. We were always cool with eachothers and chat all the time sharing laughs and jokes. Now the problem with this girl is that she doesent trust anyone due to past experiences. I mean literally anyone. But i managed to gain her trust. And during that date i was feeling like i am going to get her even gifted her one hell of a necklace. All i needed was just a little bit. A few days later i noticed that she suddenly changed. She responded to my texts with short answers. Never answers my call and proceeds to text me right after calling by saying "what do you want". And now she's taking it to another level. Hugging other guys and even laughing with them and immeditaly turning her frown when i try to talk to her. When i tried to ask her what was going on she started saying that she doesn't want me to be close to her for my sake and not hers (but i know that's a load of bull crap). What should i do? I need her. Thanks
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Help understanding current case with a girl
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I was thinking that she might be trying to make me jealous is that a possible thing? I caught her looking at me a few times and then quickly looking away when i notice. Also something i forgot to write is that she only does this behavior when i'm around
Edit: she's also always cared about helping with my insecurities and problems. And she used to insists on me hanging with her at her house
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Roober
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She is telling you exactly who she is... Use your head! Not the one between your legs!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What should you do?
Next and wash your hands of her for good. When they turn disrespectful don't waste any more time on her. It is one thing that she isn't interested. We get that. But when she turns rude and disrespectful, cut her out of your life 100%
Don't reward her bad behaviour with having you in her life. Next.
Building_and_Loan
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You bought her a necklace, is that right? If so, you shouldn't have done that. That stuff is reserved for serious relationships between adults, not what you 2 may have had.
Live and learn, man. But I think that scared her off. Reciprocate by showing her as much attention as she shows you, and see how she responds.
When a girl likes you and wants you to pursue her, she makes it easy for you. Not harder. She isn't trying to make you jealous, she's trying to make you see that she isn't interested.
Live and learn, man. But I think that scared her off. Reciprocate by showing her as much attention as she shows you, and see how she responds.
When a girl likes you and wants you to pursue her, she makes it easy for you. Not harder. She isn't trying to make you jealous, she's trying to make you see that she isn't interested.
Bingo-Player
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just sounds like a basic case of lack of respect
when you give off a soft aurora around women they will walk over you like this one is trying to do
forget about her , toughen up , be a real man and then try another chick
when you give off a soft aurora around women they will walk over you like this one is trying to do
forget about her , toughen up , be a real man and then try another chick
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.