Hey everyone, i'd appreciate help on a specific subject. So i am 18 currently on the last year of my studies and i've known a girl who we would refer to as M. We've been friends for a while but i decided to grow some balls and ask her out before valentines day. We were always cool with eachothers and chat all the time sharing laughs and jokes. Now the problem with this girl is that she doesent trust anyone due to past experiences. I mean literally anyone. But i managed to gain her trust. And during that date i was feeling like i am going to get her even gifted her one hell of a necklace. All i needed was just a little bit. A few days later i noticed that she suddenly changed. She responded to my texts with short answers. Never answers my call and proceeds to text me right after calling by saying "what do you want". And now she's taking it to another level. Hugging other guys and even laughing with them and immeditaly turning her frown when i try to talk to her. When i tried to ask her what was going on she started saying that she doesn't want me to be close to her for my sake and not hers (but i know that's a load of bull crap). What should i do? I need her. Thanks
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Help understanding current case with a girl
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I was thinking that she might be trying to make me jealous is that a possible thing? I caught her looking at me a few times and then quickly looking away when i notice. Also something i forgot to write is that she only does this behavior when i'm around
Edit: she's also always cared about helping with my insecurities and problems. And she used to insists on me hanging with her at her house
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Roober
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She is telling you exactly who she is... Use your head! Not the one between your legs!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What should you do?
Next and wash your hands of her for good. When they turn disrespectful don't waste any more time on her. It is one thing that she isn't interested. We get that. But when she turns rude and disrespectful, cut her out of your life 100%
Don't reward her bad behaviour with having you in her life. Next.
Building_and_Loan
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You bought her a necklace, is that right? If so, you shouldn't have done that. That stuff is reserved for serious relationships between adults, not what you 2 may have had.
Live and learn, man. But I think that scared her off. Reciprocate by showing her as much attention as she shows you, and see how she responds.
When a girl likes you and wants you to pursue her, she makes it easy for you. Not harder. She isn't trying to make you jealous, she's trying to make you see that she isn't interested.
Live and learn, man. But I think that scared her off. Reciprocate by showing her as much attention as she shows you, and see how she responds.
When a girl likes you and wants you to pursue her, she makes it easy for you. Not harder. She isn't trying to make you jealous, she's trying to make you see that she isn't interested.
Bingo-Player
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just sounds like a basic case of lack of respect
when you give off a soft aurora around women they will walk over you like this one is trying to do
forget about her , toughen up , be a real man and then try another chick
when you give off a soft aurora around women they will walk over you like this one is trying to do
forget about her , toughen up , be a real man and then try another chick
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.