HELP!! To Pay or Not to Pay??

[apme123]

Hi Everyone once again happy 4th of July, I got into an argument with one of my friends over the fact that when you take a women out on a date you should always pay for her. I personally don’t think like that, "I think a women should earn it" Paying for a women on a date includes Food/Cab/Movie tickets/ Anything else... I would like to know if you guys always pay for your dates, or split the cost with them or don’t pay for them at all. I would Like to Know what you guys personally think about this topic and how women respond towards paying, not paying, or splitting the cost.

 

[iqqi]

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[PeeGee]

Don't take her to expensive places, or if you somehow *must* use dinner dates, eat before you go, so you'll end up ordering a salad or whatever, and she (likely) would order less as well.

Or schedule the date after her dinner (but you might look like a weirdo no matter how you engineer that setup).

I haven't paid for anything for women for years myself. Used to pay all the time for dinner dates and other stuff like that. All I have to do is think of the near-empty bank account I had at the time to motivate me not to do it again, or excessively if I must.

 

[Seeph]

With me it depends on how the date is setup.. if it is casually brought up like "hey we should go to this event together" then we split it.. if she is all "Hey will you be my date to X event?" then I'll let her pay or I pay for myself.. only when i specifically say "Will you go with me to X event?" Will I pay.

 

[WaterTiger]

I always offer to split it. If he buys dinner, then I pick up the movie tickets. If he gets the concert tickets, I get the food. Try to keep it reasonably balanced.

OR...she plans & pays one date, you plan & pay the next.