Help the AFC or chill?

[Thatfeel21]

If u saw a person obviously an AFC, say at work or a party you're at, would you pull him aside and give him advice on how it REALLY is?? I'm talking a decent looking guy or a guy that deserves better but doesnt know better...

 

[MotownMack]

Funny, I was at a birthday party the other day and had the same thoughts.

There was an HB8 that was friend of a friend-that never met me, but wanted to meet me (I won't get into the story of how this came about). We talked for maybe 5 minutes at this party, and it was ok-don't think I did a great job, but made good eye contact, was ****y, etc.

Anyway, when I got to the party, which was at a bar open to the public, she had been talking to two guys. One was following her around the entire time, and to my knowledge, was someone who was not with the "party" but someone she'd met at the bar.

The guy was following her around the bar like a puppy, it was pretty pathetic. The funny part is, I caught her looking at me twice (after she'd run off from our conversation and didn't come back), when I was talking to a girl I've known for a while. The girl I was talking to had b/f, it was just friendly chat, but the HB8 is new to the circle, so I am sure she didn't know that (a little social proof at work maybe?)

Anyway, her body language as she moved around the bar, compared to his inferior body language, was very obvious to me. And 5-10 years ago, she was probably an HB9, so I have no doubt she probably falls into the category of woman that this stuff we talk about on her was pretty much written for. Even though this guy was technically competition, I almost wanted to pull him aside and say "Dude, wtf are you doing?" I did point out his behavior to a few AFC friends of mine, and even they-with their limited knowledge-agreed.

I say if it's a friend, then casually mention your observations. If it's not someone you know-as was my case- you're likely just to offend them, so I wouldn't bother.

 

[KontrollerX]

In real life I only try to help those who ask help of me.

I think thats the way you have to go to avoid offending anyone and getting angry words spewed at you when you were only trying to help.

 

[Yahooey]

I don't try and completely reform the AFC. If it is a "friend", I will give them tips to help them - and stop my inner cringing.

AFC's that are strangers are a different subject. On more than one occasion, the presence of an AFC competing in a set has helped me - the contrast between the AFC and the DJ in me is immediate, compensates for some of the weaknesses in my game and increases attraction.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Exactly . If he's friend i would help , but if he's stranger NO WAAAY i would pull him aside and help him