"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hockey Playa

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This '5' has been almost stalking me for the last 2 months. Always saying we should hang out, aka hook up. Ive always put it off, cause shes friends with my ex, who i wouldnt mind rekindling it with in the near future.

Anyways i was very drunk at a party, and she starts messaging me, saying she wants to hang out. MY standards usually fall too when i drink, so i say what the hell, tell her to come over for a bit. So i leave the party drunk as fuk. Make out with her , get a BJ. than get her to drive me back lol. Anyways i was praying she would keep it on the DL. of course i start getting messages, ''o hey about us the other night'' with a smiley face.... Im yet to reply...IT would be pretty rude, to say ''Dont tell anyone'' i really dont anyone to find out though, or this to ever happen again...I dont know how to tell her i was just drunk and wanted piece....sighhhh drinking is bad.. lol any suggestions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just say... "haha yeah, interesting night. i was so drunk, i barely remember any of it."
 
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Hey man,

You tell her how it is. It was what it was and that's it. Drop that in a text and no matter what you do, let it stew for a day. She will get the point when you don't reply.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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